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> I recall that hitting on undergraduates as an early 20-something graduate student was considered a pretty serious no-no If you're a 24 year old grad student
by michaelt 2y ago
> I recall that hitting on undergraduates as an early 20-something graduate student was considered a pretty serious no-no
If you're a 24 year old grad student and they're a 22 year old undergraduate in a different department? No big age gap, no power over them like grading their work, no problem.
And as you get towards 27 obviously you won't want to date 18 year olds - but even if the grad students in your department are mostly male and you don't want to create an awkward environment for the female minority, there are grad students in plenty of other departments too.
Is meeting your future wife in grad school super-professional? IDK, maybe not? But it's relatively a lot more professional than trying the same thing at a sausagefest Silicon Valley tech company.
- windward 2y agoHardly a quality of the working environment then. You get the same just by working in the vicinity of the institution.
- busterarm 2y agoYou're still not really internalizing the fact that academia is status-economy job, like being a celebrity. There are orders of magnitude more people willing to be there (under worse circumstances than you) than there are available positions. How you move socially is going to be one of the biggest factors that can kill opportunities for you or spin you out of academic work entirely. Everyone is out for themselves -- knives out. As such, you're probably living very dangerously trying to navigate intimate relationships anywhere in the orbit of campus. Sure, it happens, but doesn't always end well.