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I'm not sure why the focus on "young" parents. Consistent parenting is very important at any age. Kids need their parents to be reliable and dependable with cle

I'm not sure why the focus on "young" parents. Consistent parenting is very important at any age. Kids need their parents to be reliable and dependable with clear expectations and boundaries or things can get bad very quickly. Inconsistent and unpredictable parenting is a common factor in children with oppositional defiant disorder and treatment often includes working with the parents as much as working with the child.

freddie_mercury 2y ago
The word "young" doesn't even appear in the article, so not sure what you're talking about. The author never once mentions young parents.
- autoexec 2y ago
  > The word "young" doesn't even appear in the article, so not sure what you're talking about. The title of the post we're both commenting on, which reads: "Why young parents should focus on building trust with their kids". I was assuming that the title was oddly editorialized, but it's also not that uncommon for articles to change their titles too so it's possible that posting guidelines were followed and it was the article itself that specified "young parents" at some point. Considering the age of the article though, I kind of doubt it.
  - nmeofthestate 2y ago
    It was posted by the author I think. I have no idea why they went with the different title. Isn't HN usually pretty strict about titles, to discourage clickbaiting?
    - _emacsomancer_ 2y ago
      The actual page title "marshmallow test and parenting" is much better. The HN title makes it sound like it's only relevant to a subset of parents ("young ones").
dmurray 2y ago
This got me too, but on reading, it's clear the author means parents of young children. Since the focus of the article is on child development, it's reasonable that it limits its scope to parents of young children, and not e.g. parents of 50-year olds, even if building trust might be nice there too.
desunit 2y ago
Yes, I mean every parent, but the whole post started with an observation of my youngest child and later expanded to marshmallows, culture, and so on.

freddie_mercury 2y ago

The word "young" doesn't even appear in the article, so not sure what you're talking about. The author never once mentions young parents.

autoexec 2y ago
> The word "young" doesn't even appear in the article, so not sure what you're talking about. The title of the post we're both commenting on, which reads: "Why young parents should focus on building trust with their kids". I was assuming that the title was oddly editorialized, but it's also not that uncommon for articles to change their titles too so it's possible that posting guidelines were followed and it was the article itself that specified "young parents" at some point. Considering the age of the article though, I kind of doubt it.
- nmeofthestate 2y ago
  It was posted by the author I think. I have no idea why they went with the different title. Isn't HN usually pretty strict about titles, to discourage clickbaiting?
  - _emacsomancer_ 2y ago
    The actual page title "marshmallow test and parenting" is much better. The HN title makes it sound like it's only relevant to a subset of parents ("young ones").

dmurray 2y ago

This got me too, but on reading, it's clear the author means parents of young children. Since the focus of the article is on child development, it's reasonable that it limits its scope to parents of young children, and not e.g. parents of 50-year olds, even if building trust might be nice there too.

desunit 2y ago

Yes, I mean every parent, but the whole post started with an observation of my youngest child and later expanded to marshmallows, culture, and so on.