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Even my wife's friends are often my enemies too. Maybe it's just me, but it seems that being the man in a relationship has taken a nosedive in value in recent
by midtake 2y ago
Even my wife's friends are often my enemies too.
Maybe it's just me, but it seems that being the man in a relationship has taken a nosedive in value in recent times.
- dr-detroit 2y ago[dead]
- ubermonkey 2y agoWhat does "being the man in a relationship" mean to you?
- skulk 2y agoIt means telling your wife she can't hang out with her friends.
- uncletaco 2y agoIf many of your wife’s friends hate you then it’s almost certainly just you.
- mouse_ 2y agoI dunno, cliques can be nasty. It's hard to say without more perspective.
- uncletaco 2y agoIs it? The person also believes it’s because he’s a man in a relationship.
- mouse_ 2y agoYou're right, I somehow missed that. Oops!
- TeMPOraL 2y agoThat's not a full explanation either. We don't know the nature of the conflict. This could be e.g. about jealousy or overall mindset of the poster, but then again, could be (or also be) the friends - one's friends aren't independent random variables. In particular, in a tight clique of friends, people tend to have rather well-correlated mindsets. (It's an interesting question whether that's by selection or just an effect the group projects onto each member; the distinction being, whether the character similarities would persist after the group dissolves and everyone goes on with their lives. There's likely plenty of studies done about this; if anyone knows of some reliable work there, I'd be interested to read it.)
- chongli 2y agoMaybe they hate you because your wife chooses to spend her time with you instead of them? Then you’re the Yoko!
- Philpax 2y agoIf everyone you meet is an asshole...
- subjectsigma 2y agoYes, before third-wave feminism every man in every relationship got along perfectly with all their wives’ friends and relatives. Those dastardly feminists! You know, there’s a lot to be said about modern gender roles that isn’t total crap, but I imagine people read comments like this and start thinking the opposite
- tboyd47 2y agoJealousy is a major problem with millennials on down.
- rsynnott 2y agoI mean, I think you’ll find that it wasn’t invented in 1980.
- rsynnott 2y ago> but it seems that being the man in a relationship has taken a nosedive in value in recent times. … Eh? I’m genuinely not sure how to parse this. Are you expecting free bonus points for being male or something? You’re not really entitled to have anyone like you; that’s up to them. Even if you’re a man.
- jmye 2y ago> Maybe it’s just me No, it’s all of the “manosphere” trash on YouTube/TikTok, too. It ain’t good company, but it’s certainly company.