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I have a different body but a similar relationship to it as the author. My wife is very stylish and often wears striking jewellery. She gets a lot of compliment
by thom 2y ago
I have a different body but a similar relationship to it as the author. My wife is very stylish and often wears striking jewellery. She gets a lot of compliments and doesn't have to work hard to be at ease socially, whereas for the most part I'd be happy to pass through the world unseen. We've had some modest financial success of late, and I'm resolved to being kinder to myself but also taking myself a little more seriously. I think it's easy to write off fashion as something laboured and fake and innately suspect, especially when you're an introvert and a bit of a nerd living the life of the mind. But I've come to accept that my body has value, a voice of its own, and is part of me that I can't and don't want to be rid of. I'm not really ready for tailored clothing (and I flatter myself it'd be wasteful when I lose all the weight) but I've started dressing better, sports jackets instead of hoodies, shirts instead of t-shirts. For the first time in my life I own more than two pairs of shoes. I am sure I would still look shambolic to anyone with an eye for the details (I can pull off dishevelled academic better than Ivy Style) but I feel so much more confident and relaxed. I no longer feel like I've written off half of myself, and I like the whole a lot more because of that. It was wonderful to read Gary's journey in a similar direction.
- justlikereddit 2y agoI stopped wearing shirts except for semi-formal dinner occasions once or twice a year. I don't want fancy dress pants, I don't want pants with belts at all. I want something soft, slightly elastic around the waist that I can lounge around in, that doesn't feel like it's restrictive of movement. I dress for comfort, but I do like variety and some colors, not just gym clothes. This is a horrible problem because the modern approach to clothes production is retarded. Formal isn't comfortable. Everyday fast fashion isn't comfortable and it's either pointlessly frilly over designed garbage that tries too hard to make a statement or it's generic in the extreme for faceless drones made only for utility values. The third category is a more interesting cut but unsatisfactory quality
- iamthepieman 2y agoWell made formal clothes are the most comfortable you'll wear. There is some mental discomfort for a while depending on your mindset because, at least for me, I was stuck thinking fancier clothes required fancier demeanor and attitude? Not sure I'm bailing the feeling here but it does go away eventually. I ultimately did drop the everyday formal wear though because well made stuff was expensive and Im pretty active and found myself with a lot of rips and stains on expensive clothing items.
- the__alchemist 2y agoThere are some exceptions; IMO "dress" pants are more comfortable than jeans. Details vary within each category, of course.
- glitchc 2y agoNothing's more comfortable than a pair of broken-in jeans that fit you perfectly.
- enaaem 2y agoModern dress pants are often too tight, but with well fitting dress pants it's like you are not wearing any pants at all. For example classic design features like pleats provide extra comfort when sitting down. I don't think I ever seen jeans with such features.
- wlonkly 2y agoAnd the lining! Temperature permitting, of course, but having a satin lining to your soft wool pants? It's not far off from pajamas. Of course it's often with some other clothes that are a little unpajamalike, like a stiff collar and a jacket, but a pair of half-lined pants are extremely comfortable.