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a NYer espousing normalized invalidation of everyone else in the blast radius, as reflected in NYC’s safety statistics check, check and check

senordevnyc 2y ago
Do you live in NYC? I do, and I think what the person you’re responding to is pointing out is that watching social media videos of crimes in NYC gives you a wildly distorted perspective on what it feels like to live here. Yes, crime is a problem, just like in every single city in the world. But basically no one that I know has been victimized or even been a witness to the kinds of crimes you’re talking about. It’s a huge city, and these incidents are statistically rare. That said, we are all traumatized and have PTSD, but it’s over the ridiculous cost of living :)
tootie 2y ago
Everyone commenting doesn't live here. I'm well aware the crime happens in the city. What I think people don't quite appreciate is that the city is huge. The city hosts not only millions of residents but millions more visitors. The subway services literally billions of rides per year. Even if the raw numbers are high, it's not a war zone. If you stay aware and avoid dangerous situations and look both ways crossing the street and don't join a gang, the chances of being a victim are slim.
- yieldcrv 2y ago
  I’ve lived in NYC, and I’ve lived in other places that gave me a much different view on how to validate people’s experiences. I view all of my NYC friends and unenlightened philisters in this respect and you are acting just like them. You are aiming to spark introspection by talking about the nice day to day experience, at the expense of the not nice experiences based on a difference in perceived frequency. But this is all for pride.
  - tootie 2y ago
    I cannot comprehend what point you're trying to make or how you derived it from me describing my own lived experience. I have lived elsewhere, even outside the US. I know nyc isn't the only way to live and I'm not telling anyone it's the best. Just that it's not as dangerous as portrayed in some media and it's possible to live a fulfilling life and even raise kids.

senordevnyc 2y ago

Do you live in NYC? I do, and I think what the person you’re responding to is pointing out is that watching social media videos of crimes in NYC gives you a wildly distorted perspective on what it feels like to live here. Yes, crime is a problem, just like in every single city in the world. But basically no one that I know has been victimized or even been a witness to the kinds of crimes you’re talking about. It’s a huge city, and these incidents are statistically rare. That said, we are all traumatized and have PTSD, but it’s over the ridiculous cost of living :)

tootie 2y ago

Everyone commenting doesn't live here. I'm well aware the crime happens in the city. What I think people don't quite appreciate is that the city is huge. The city hosts not only millions of residents but millions more visitors. The subway services literally billions of rides per year. Even if the raw numbers are high, it's not a war zone. If you stay aware and avoid dangerous situations and look both ways crossing the street and don't join a gang, the chances of being a victim are slim.

yieldcrv 2y ago
I’ve lived in NYC, and I’ve lived in other places that gave me a much different view on how to validate people’s experiences. I view all of my NYC friends and unenlightened philisters in this respect and you are acting just like them. You are aiming to spark introspection by talking about the nice day to day experience, at the expense of the not nice experiences based on a difference in perceived frequency. But this is all for pride.
- tootie 2y ago
  I cannot comprehend what point you're trying to make or how you derived it from me describing my own lived experience. I have lived elsewhere, even outside the US. I know nyc isn't the only way to live and I'm not telling anyone it's the best. Just that it's not as dangerous as portrayed in some media and it's possible to live a fulfilling life and even raise kids.