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> It's unfortunate people expect you to have social media like a girl asks me if I have Instagram and I'm weird to not have one, I get it they can scope you out
by carlosjobim 2y ago
> It's unfortunate people expect you to have social media like a girl asks me if I have Instagram and I'm weird to not have one, I get it they can scope you out too for safety but when I tried using that stuff I felt this pressure to post about something
It's not about scoping you out. Asking for your Instagram is like what asking for your number was in the past. It's flirting, it's that they want to get in touch again, set up a date.
If you say "I don't have Instagram", the girl will assume that you don't like her, not that you don't have Instagram.
So just make an empty Instagram (with a normal profile photo) for connecting with people. And say so when sharing it with a girl. If it's somebody who wants to "scope you out", you're already dealing with a person who you don't want to deal with.
- oneeyedpigeon 2y ago> If you say "I don't have Instagram", the girl will assume that you don't like her, not that you don't have Instagram. > So just make an empty Instagram Why not, instead, say "I don't have Instagram, here's my [ bluesky handle / phone number / email address ]"?
- carlosjobim 2y ago> bluesky handle Just tell her you are an Arch Linux admin and skip the flirting. > phone number Yes, in regions where people use phone numbers / WhatsApp numbers in that way. > email address Just tell her you wanna sell her a time share and skip the flirting.
- andyjohnson0 2y ago> Asking for your Instagram is like what asking for your number was in the past. It's flirting, it's that they want to get in touch again, set up a date. Personal website is the way to go. Preferably a static site built with a home-made templating engine written in Ruby and running on a non-mainstream budget cloud provider. The chicks dig it man. Even a hint of Wordpress is social death. /s