most women do not approach men first; men are usually first to be rejected This is true, but from what I've seen it's not because women are particularly scared

most women do not approach men first; men are usually first to be rejected This is true, but from what I've seen it's not because women are particularly scared of rejection, it's because they use men's approaches as a filter. That is, they want men to be confident enough to approach them, and charismatic enough to do it well.