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I agree. Both sides need to stop calling names, but more deeply, need to see the goodness in the other side (and in ourselves). The problem can be, someone can

I agree. Both sides need to stop calling names, but more deeply, need to see the goodness in the other side (and in ourselves). The problem can be, someone can feel attacked even if the other person is treating them in a very kind and loving way, because they think it's fake. On the contrary, someone could receive verbal and physical abuse and still not feel attacked because they maintain faith in their and the other person's good intentions. So I think it's more about changing the behaviors of the person on the receiving end than on the giving end.

tremendoussss 2y ago
I agree with you in spirit. Everyone is equally responsible on "how" they communicate. When the giving side is coming from a place of contempt and disgust, the work for improvement shouldn't be trivialized.
- jimkleiber 2y ago
  But the receiving side can also get better at receiving contempt and disgust and realizing the pain the other person is going through. Honestly, working on how to receive punches has helped me so much in my life. An ex-girlfriend of mine lied to me about being pregnant (I think). And at first, I was furious. Then I realized that if she were to lie about that, she must have been going through so much pain, and I probably did something to contribute to that pain. I apologized to her and felt a lot better and it also allowed me to regain trust in women again, maybe even deepening my trust.
  - Jerrrry 2y ago
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  - greentxt 2y ago
    But you didn't marry her.
    - jimkleiber 2y ago
      Im not sure what is your point. What are you trying to say?
0dayz 2y ago
I agree in principle but how could you work together when republicans they follow the newt gingerich doctrine which to literally demonize the democrats for political brownie points?
- jimkleiber 2y ago
  Love them so hard and so persistently that they start to trust the love.
  - 0dayz 2y ago
    Right mr lex, i highly doubt that "loving" someone abusing you is a valid strategy.
    - jimkleiber 2y ago
      I think it's a very valid strategy. First, it can help me a lot. Second, it can help them. Going around thinking I'm surrounded by people who don't care about me is probably the fastest way to misery and loneliness. On the contrary, if I think most people are dealing with many conflicts at the same time and trying their best, I feel so much connected to life itself. Also, most conflict is back-and-forth attacks and counterattacks. You reject me, I ignore you, you call me names, I block you, etc. Instead, if you reject me, then I tell you it hurts you said that to me, and yet I imagine you've had a long day and are trying your best, it breaks the cycle.
      - 0dayz 2y ago
        It's not about caring it's about being aware of the ones who will abuse and exploit you with malice. Life is not some break and forgive world, it's neutral if you bring a child in this world through rape and destruction, that is innately equal to consentual, kind and forgiving child rearing.

tremendoussss 2y ago

I agree with you in spirit. Everyone is equally responsible on "how" they communicate. When the giving side is coming from a place of contempt and disgust, the work for improvement shouldn't be trivialized.

jimkleiber 2y ago
But the receiving side can also get better at receiving contempt and disgust and realizing the pain the other person is going through. Honestly, working on how to receive punches has helped me so much in my life. An ex-girlfriend of mine lied to me about being pregnant (I think). And at first, I was furious. Then I realized that if she were to lie about that, she must have been going through so much pain, and I probably did something to contribute to that pain. I apologized to her and felt a lot better and it also allowed me to regain trust in women again, maybe even deepening my trust.
- Jerrrry 2y ago
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- greentxt 2y ago
  But you didn't marry her.
  - jimkleiber 2y ago
    Im not sure what is your point. What are you trying to say?

0dayz 2y ago

I agree in principle but how could you work together when republicans they follow the newt gingerich doctrine which to literally demonize the democrats for political brownie points?

jimkleiber 2y ago
Love them so hard and so persistently that they start to trust the love.
- 0dayz 2y ago
  Right mr lex, i highly doubt that "loving" someone abusing you is a valid strategy.
  - jimkleiber 2y ago
    I think it's a very valid strategy. First, it can help me a lot. Second, it can help them. Going around thinking I'm surrounded by people who don't care about me is probably the fastest way to misery and loneliness. On the contrary, if I think most people are dealing with many conflicts at the same time and trying their best, I feel so much connected to life itself. Also, most conflict is back-and-forth attacks and counterattacks. You reject me, I ignore you, you call me names, I block you, etc. Instead, if you reject me, then I tell you it hurts you said that to me, and yet I imagine you've had a long day and are trying your best, it breaks the cycle.
    - 0dayz 2y ago
      It's not about caring it's about being aware of the ones who will abuse and exploit you with malice. Life is not some break and forgive world, it's neutral if you bring a child in this world through rape and destruction, that is innately equal to consentual, kind and forgiving child rearing.