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Most people (all sexes and genders) are bad at handling rejection, period. It’s why online dating is popular in general—a rejection over a digital medium is a l
by d4mi3n 2y ago
Most people (all sexes and genders) are bad at handling rejection, period. It’s why online dating is popular in general—a rejection over a digital medium is a lot less intimidating and less confrontational than the same in person.
- DiggyJohnson 2y agoThe rate and experience of rejection does not seem to be symmetrical across the sexes by a significant degree. Of course nobody likes rejection, but this point doesn’t really advance the discussion.
- swores 2y agoThey were responding to "women are worse at handling rejection", and if they disagree with that (as I do too) then it is advancing the conversation to say so, even though it doesn't advance a part of the conversation that specifically explains dating app use.
- dgfitz 2y agoMen handle rejection poorly, I’ve seen it, as I’m sure we all have. Weeping, drinking, wallowing in self-pity. It can get bad. Women handle rejection with anger, resentment, and vitriol towards the rejecting party. So much so that I’ve seen people get married and divorced because the man was basically bullied into sticking around, and she left in the end anyways. Happens all the fucking time.
- knighthack 2y ago[flagged]
- wutwutwat 2y ago[flagged]
- knighthack 2y agoCongratulations on your shaming ad-hominem language. Your lack of any genuine counterpoint reveals your men-hating nature by your remarks, which deserve no further response.
- wutwutwat 2y agoMe calling out you for your distorted view of women === I hate men? Solid logic. 100%. Probably the same logic that resulted in your wack determination about rejection. PS. I'm a man. One who doesn't hate women. Or men. Not in general. I am able to hate individuals though, and their gender plays little into it, while their sweeping generalizations and hateful pseudo facts often do.
- DiggyJohnson 2y agoRead the guidelines and in general don’t call people an “incel” because they disagree with you.
- wutwutwat 2y agoThat's not why I called them an incel. I called them an incel for spouting a hateful opinion as fact that makes women out to be inferior, you know, the thing incels are known for doing.
- DiggyJohnson 2y agoYou should essentially never call someone an incel if you want to be taken seriously. Second, it’s obviously against the HN guidelines.
- wutwutwat 2y agoYet, my comment remains left intact. Sometimes inaction says just as much as action...
- orangecat 2y agomost women do not approach men first; men are usually first to be rejected This is true, but from what I've seen it's not because women are particularly scared of rejection, it's because they use men's approaches as a filter. That is, they want men to be confident enough to approach them, and charismatic enough to do it well.