Everyone on my dad's side of the family gathered for xmas each year - maybe 20 of us. Full house. And everybody felt obliged to buy personal presents for everyo

Everyone on my dad's side of the family gathered for xmas each year - maybe 20 of us. Full house. And everybody felt obliged to buy personal presents for everyone else. Finally someone stood up and said "Instead of everyone stressing about buying twenty cheap gifts, how about a secret santa where everyone gets one nice gift". Made the holidays less stressful for everyone. It just hadn't occurred to us - we bought into the obligate gift ritual without thinking.