100% true. Completely unrelated, but I find that other people will create problems by making an off-colour statement, something mildly offensive, or disrespect

100% true. Completely unrelated, but I find that other people will create problems by making an off-colour statement, something mildly offensive, or disrespectful and then when they get a reaction they say "why are you making a problem where none exists". DARVO/gaslighting behaviour, and I wish it was rarer than it is.