Or, ya know, you could both chip in in the household work. That said, I'm not really against the thrust of your post, despite its undercurrent of sexism (I kno

Or, ya know, you could both chip in in the household work. That said, I'm not really against the thrust of your post, despite its undercurrent of sexism (I know plenty of relationships where the woman is the breadwinner and the man a househusband). In general, this "division of labor" is a thing that actually tends to work out better when you can focus on one thing at a time. As a not-perfect analogy, I know divorced couples with kids that actually feel their shared custody arrangement is much better than when they were together (note these couples still like and care for each other, they just don't want to be married). I.e. when it's their turn to have their kids, they're totally focused on their kids, it can be stressful if they're working but they block out all their time to either work or be with their kids. Then, when it's their spouse's turn, they can do whatever the F they want, be completely relaxed, etc.