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How much if the "kin work" is self imposed torture ? I have seen multiple instances where the stress degraded everyone's experience, and/or simply wasn't appre
by readthenotes1 2y ago
How much if the "kin work" is self imposed torture ?
I have seen multiple instances where the stress degraded everyone's experience, and/or simply wasn't appreciated or valued by the intended recipients because they would have been just as satisfied by making their own sandwich. And sometimes, I've seen people dread the experience because of the required hours at the dinner table when they would rather be doing something less stifling.
That is, I wonder how much of this can work is actually an example of the Abilene paradox
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Abilene_paradox https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Abilene_paradox
- perrygeo 2y agoEveryone on my dad's side of the family gathered for xmas each year - maybe 20 of us. Full house. And everybody felt obliged to buy personal presents for everyone else. Finally someone stood up and said "Instead of everyone stressing about buying twenty cheap gifts, how about a secret santa where everyone gets one nice gift". Made the holidays less stressful for everyone. It just hadn't occurred to us - we bought into the obligate gift ritual without thinking.