A bit nitpicky, but I've noticed the same thing, especially in humanities and social science people who ought to know the difference better. Her point on dropp

A bit nitpicky, but I've noticed the same thing, especially in humanities and social science people who ought to know the difference better. Her point on dropping the ball is interesting, too: I'm a chronic ball dropper for christmas stuff, and mostly manage it by maintaining sane relationships the rest of the time. It would really be quite nice if other people took the same approach, not least because it is increasingly well understood how much people (women) despise this kind of work. Who wants to sit down to an elaborate christmas dinner planned and prepped by someone who clearly doesn't want to do it? A better festive time could be negotiated fairly easily between everyone if the pretence of obligation was dropped. Then maybe the other stuff ends up feeling easier.