We live very different lives, so take what I say with a grain of salt. I'm of the opinion that you don't really "control your own destiny". Most things happen b

We live very different lives, so take what I say with a grain of salt. I'm of the opinion that you don't really "control your own destiny". Most things happen by chance. Fighting for control is a losing game. If you feel strongly about something, act on it and see where it goes.