I think the success we see despite ADHD is that people are bright enough or resourceful enough to brute force their way through schools and careers. I had a va

I think the success we see despite ADHD is that people are bright enough or resourceful enough to brute force their way through schools and careers. I had a vasectomy around age 30 knowing kids would make my life really difficult, I think for the same reasons you're seeing right now. It's a lot of responsibility and I frankly struggle to take care of myself as it is. I'd be a really good parent and I take phenomenal care of my partners, but my financial variability would cause me too much stress if I had a kid.