> The "thing" driving this emotion is essentially hard-coded in the author at this point, from early childhood. I'll respond to this indirectly. I eventually l

> The "thing" driving this emotion is essentially hard-coded in the author at this point, from early childhood. I'll respond to this indirectly. I eventually learned that healing isn't restoration. We improve our being by layering better thinking over scarred ground. The bad layers never go away. However, we can draw on better layers to improve our behavior. With enough layers we hope to stop perpetuating our parent's flaws.