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> The point is: there isn't a "right" way. I can tell you at least one “wrong way” though, which is to completely ignore it and pretend it doesn’t exist. That

> The point is: there isn't a "right" way. I can tell you at least one “wrong way” though, which is to completely ignore it and pretend it doesn’t exist. That’s what my parents did and it’s extremely frustrating to deal with as an adult. Logically I understand there’s no value in living in the past, but the “what if” thoughts will nag me forever. What if instead of failing out of high school and getting a GED, I could have been an honor roll student and go to the college of my dreams? Things like that. The other problem is that I somehow lucked into a great, well-paying career, so now they just say “what’s the problem, everything worked out!”.

from-nibly 2y ago
Right? Like what if the parents of a child who's legs didn't work just pretended they did? How would that play out? Probably would end with a phone call to CPS. Ignoring mental differences is not a solution to the problem. I've met too many parents who are afraid to get a diagnosis because "what if they have it". There isn't a right way yo parent kids with ADHD. It's going to be something you have to work on together. But pretending it doesn't exist can only bring misery for all involved.
olddustytrail 2y ago
Well why don't you go to the college of your dreams now? Or does it only work when other people work and pay for it?
- SteveNuts 2y ago
  I have no academic basis to apply to a top school, and to be honest the more annoying part is that I missed out on 4 years of the college experience that I got to watch my friends have from the sidelines. I don’t understand your point about who pays for it, sorry.
  - olddustytrail 2y ago
    > have no academic basis to apply to a top school Then what exactly are you complaining about? You clearly didn't deserve that college experience.
    - SteveNuts 2y ago
      Why do you say that?
      - olddustytrail 2y ago
        Because you just said you didn't.
        SteveNuts 2y ago
        I guess maybe I wasn’t clear, my point was that if I had been given the chance to succeed academically from an early age, given my condition, my life could have been significantly different. Or do you not believe ADHD is a real thing?

from-nibly 2y ago

Right? Like what if the parents of a child who's legs didn't work just pretended they did? How would that play out? Probably would end with a phone call to CPS. Ignoring mental differences is not a solution to the problem. I've met too many parents who are afraid to get a diagnosis because "what if they have it". There isn't a right way yo parent kids with ADHD. It's going to be something you have to work on together. But pretending it doesn't exist can only bring misery for all involved.

olddustytrail 2y ago

Well why don't you go to the college of your dreams now? Or does it only work when other people work and pay for it?

SteveNuts 2y ago
I have no academic basis to apply to a top school, and to be honest the more annoying part is that I missed out on 4 years of the college experience that I got to watch my friends have from the sidelines. I don’t understand your point about who pays for it, sorry.
- olddustytrail 2y ago
  > have no academic basis to apply to a top school Then what exactly are you complaining about? You clearly didn't deserve that college experience.
  - SteveNuts 2y ago
    Why do you say that?
    - olddustytrail 2y ago
      Because you just said you didn't.
      - SteveNuts 2y ago
        I guess maybe I wasn’t clear, my point was that if I had been given the chance to succeed academically from an early age, given my condition, my life could have been significantly different. Or do you not believe ADHD is a real thing?