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(Disclaimer: not discussing the author here. These are the thoughts based on personal experiences, resurfaced as the result of reading the post) Planning for t
by helge9210 2y ago
(Disclaimer: not discussing the author here. These are the thoughts based on personal experiences, resurfaced as the result of reading the post)
Planning for the past (what if my parents would do things differently?) is a sign of depression (not clinical advice). Blaming the parents is not productive and doesn't lead to solutions to the problems at hand.
For me, taking responsibility on deciding what needs to be done, how to get better at doing what needs to be done and how to get better at getting better, shifted the focus significantly.
- kerkeslager 2y agoBlaming yourself for things that aren't your fault is also a sign of depression, not productive, and doesn't lead to solutions to the problem at hand. I think we probably agree that blame just isn't the ideal way to approach problems and the end goal would be to not include blame in the thought process at all. But for someone who is blaming themselves for everything, placing blame appropriately can be a step toward rebuilding some self-esteem.
- baq 2y agodon't confuse blaming with introspection. you have to accept you're responsible for yourself to do that properly first, though.
- kerkeslager 2y agoBlame is certainly going to be part of the introspective process if you've ever experienced any trauma caused by anyone else.