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When my Dad died, I was the one who "disassembled" his workshop. There was an order to it, which I grew up with, and that order deeply captured the way my fath
by femto 2y ago
When my Dad died, I was the one who "disassembled" his workshop. There was an order to it, which I grew up with, and that order deeply captured the way my father thought. It felt right to be pulling this personal thing apart. More like an act of saying goodbye rather than something destructive. I was probably the only one that knew the ordering, so I was remembering times in that workshop as I went, rather than just "cleaning up the mess". It also seemed right that the tools pass onto the next generation rather the order be preserved as a shrine.
- gizajob 2y agoYeah thanks for your comment. My thoughts about her weren’t a criticism - you’re totally right the records are now hers to start from scratch with. It was just a little niggle that came up for me that she missed something about the collection without even realising perhaps. But you could be correct to and she wanted a clean slate of it and to treat the music as hers and to discover it her way. It seems like she had a cool dad regardless, and he gave her a great gift even in his passing.
- femto 2y agoAnd I hope my comment wasn't taken as a criticism of yours. There's no right answer here, just different valid points of view.
- xp84 2y agoI’m sorry for your loss. I’ve been building a fence this weekend, and thinking about my late Dad who taught me everything I know about building and fixing things. I agree that your dad would have felt very satisfied that it was you who took care of those belongings.
- femto 2y agoThanks. Mainly I was posting to pass on the insight that I had at the time: that dealing with a death can be a process of transition rather than preservation.
- mnky9800n 2y agoOne thing about used shops whether they are book stores or art antique ones is there’s two kinds. One simply tries to make money. But the second is a representation of a persons mind. Usually these shops the space is owned but not rented. But you can clearly see inside of the mind without understanding the mind of these people. Like, why does this book shop have a whole section of typewriter written new age religious manifestos with accompanying cassette tapes? Why does this antique shop have mannequins with fish heads everywhere?