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How much do you expect a surgery to increase your odds of finding the partner you're looking for? Genuinely curious since it sounds such an incredible situation

How much do you expect a surgery to increase your odds of finding the partner you're looking for? Genuinely curious since it sounds such an incredible situation assuming that we are not talking about really serious surgery like trying to mitigate disfigurement or similar.

bradlys 2y ago
It's all very minor stuff. I've had surgery before and it was a very minor improvement. In most aspects, I look like a "healthy" adult male. The problem is that my facial attractiveness is subpar and most women I run into in places like NYC and SF have a bar that is hard to pass. Most of the women you encounter that are in relationships are not a respective audience of what you will find out in the singles market. Women who are single at 30+ in NYC/SF are a very different crowd than the ones who married their college boyfriend. Part of the reason these women are single is because of their high demands. My hope is that one day I will be able to pass the looks threshold and be able to get matches on things like dating apps. I'm doubtful that I ever will and so that's why I am super consistent about going out and doing stuff but the brainrot from being online all the time has infected most women I run into. Most of the women I'd be compatible with just don't go out to many events where single men are.
- deanmoriarty 2y ago
  What’s your take on finding a partner from abroad? I understand it sounds incredibly cringy and fake, but I have a couple of friends that would easily fall into the bucket of “very subpar facial+body attractiveness”, and went through their 20s without a single date. One found a wife in Eastern Europe, and one in South East Asia. There are a million reasons to think how bad of an idea that would be (I thought the same for a while), but after many years they are still in very happy marriages, with attractive and loving wives that do genuinely seem to care about them after all these years.
  - bradlys 2y ago
    It wouldn't make any sense for me. I'm looking for a professional working woman and not a housewife.
    - em-bee 2y ago
      there are also professional women in those countries. but it is still an important point to consider because they may not be able to work in your country after moving, unless you move to theirs, which is what i did. my wife was always earning more than me.

bradlys 2y ago

It's all very minor stuff. I've had surgery before and it was a very minor improvement. In most aspects, I look like a "healthy" adult male. The problem is that my facial attractiveness is subpar and most women I run into in places like NYC and SF have a bar that is hard to pass. Most of the women you encounter that are in relationships are not a respective audience of what you will find out in the singles market. Women who are single at 30+ in NYC/SF are a very different crowd than the ones who married their college boyfriend. Part of the reason these women are single is because of their high demands. My hope is that one day I will be able to pass the looks threshold and be able to get matches on things like dating apps. I'm doubtful that I ever will and so that's why I am super consistent about going out and doing stuff but the brainrot from being online all the time has infected most women I run into. Most of the women I'd be compatible with just don't go out to many events where single men are.

deanmoriarty 2y ago
What’s your take on finding a partner from abroad? I understand it sounds incredibly cringy and fake, but I have a couple of friends that would easily fall into the bucket of “very subpar facial+body attractiveness”, and went through their 20s without a single date. One found a wife in Eastern Europe, and one in South East Asia. There are a million reasons to think how bad of an idea that would be (I thought the same for a while), but after many years they are still in very happy marriages, with attractive and loving wives that do genuinely seem to care about them after all these years.
- bradlys 2y ago
  It wouldn't make any sense for me. I'm looking for a professional working woman and not a housewife.
  - em-bee 2y ago
    there are also professional women in those countries. but it is still an important point to consider because they may not be able to work in your country after moving, unless you move to theirs, which is what i did. my wife was always earning more than me.