Saying "she" != altering reality because no one is litigating what you believe, just that you treat someone's genuinely held identity with a modicum of deferenc

Saying "she" != altering reality because no one is litigating what you believe, just that you treat someone's genuinely held identity with a modicum of deference. Otherwise if I were your coworker I would demand being allowed to call you a bigoted moron because anything else would be altering reality as I see it.