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I was genuinely afraid of this post hitting HN, but thank you for the kind words.

by phillmv 2y ago

solfox 2y ago
This is a very important conversation to have right now. Thank you for your vulnerability in sharing it.
dungenn 2y ago
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tmearnest 2y ago
I was terrified to look up through the comments after reading the article, but HN truly surprised me today.
mkaic 2y ago
As someone pondering the exact same sentiment of "I like women so much that I kinda want to be one" but who hasn't fully committed to it yet, I really appreciated your vulnerability and lucid writing. I hope folks are kind here in the comments. > It took me a while to remove my facial hair, I still haven’t trained my voice. The facial hair removal really does take forever, it's so annoying :sob:. And I've found voice training (particularly around other people) to be really intimidating. I wish you the best of luck if you decide to pursue it! Take care, OP.
- thr48833rway 2y ago
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- phillmv 2y ago
  Hi, thanks! My unsolicited advice is: whether they realize it or not, _everyone transitions_ ;) http://okayfail.com/garden/everyone-transitions.html http://okayfail.com/garden/everyone-transitions.html I came out socially for most of a year before I committed to hormones, and it took me another year and a half to commit to removing my facial hair. At some point it really is a leap of faith. But you can do a lot of exploring and trying things out until you feel comfortable – or decide it's not really what you want. Either way, good luck!
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  - mkaic 2y ago
    I seem to be going in the opposite order lol—I've been getting my facial hair removed for almost a year now, but am only barely starting to become comfortable with the idea of actually transitioning. And if I did transition, I think I'd likely only come out socially to a very small group of people until I'd also transitioned hormonally! Perhaps my priorities are all backwards... I read your linked post and enjoyed it—I've heard vaguely similar sentiments expressed before by some of my trans friends. It's like that RuPaul quote: "We're all born naked, and the rest is drag." I hope you have a nice day, and thank you for the well-wishes :)
qarl 2y ago
Your piece is very very well said. Thank you so much for putting yourself out there.
mempko 2y ago
Beautiful writing. I also read pg's essay and was also upset. Just know there are cis men like me who are on your side and hate where tech is going. The bigotry being out in the open is disturbing.
sadcodemonkey 2y ago
I found your post extremely touching and humanizing. We need more of these perspectives right now that highlight the complex feelings of lived experiences. This is literally what makes us human, and has the potential to reach people in ways that polemic does not (which is not to say polemic isn't important). Thanks for sharing.
chrisvalleybay 2y ago
I feel nothing but support for you. May you be happy. May you be healthy. May you be safe. May you live with ease.

I was genuinely afraid of this post hitting HN, but thank you for the kind words.

solfox 2y ago

This is a very important conversation to have right now. Thank you for your vulnerability in sharing it.

dungenn 2y ago

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tmearnest 2y ago

I was terrified to look up through the comments after reading the article, but HN truly surprised me today.

mkaic 2y ago

As someone pondering the exact same sentiment of "I like women so much that I kinda want to be one" but who hasn't fully committed to it yet, I really appreciated your vulnerability and lucid writing. I hope folks are kind here in the comments. > It took me a while to remove my facial hair, I still haven’t trained my voice. The facial hair removal really does take forever, it's so annoying :sob:. And I've found voice training (particularly around other people) to be really intimidating. I wish you the best of luck if you decide to pursue it! Take care, OP.

thr48833rway 2y ago
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phillmv 2y ago
Hi, thanks! My unsolicited advice is: whether they realize it or not, _everyone transitions_ ;) http://okayfail.com/garden/everyone-transitions.html http://okayfail.com/garden/everyone-transitions.html I came out socially for most of a year before I committed to hormones, and it took me another year and a half to commit to removing my facial hair. At some point it really is a leap of faith. But you can do a lot of exploring and trying things out until you feel comfortable – or decide it's not really what you want. Either way, good luck!
- thr48833rway 2y ago
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- mkaic 2y ago
  I seem to be going in the opposite order lol—I've been getting my facial hair removed for almost a year now, but am only barely starting to become comfortable with the idea of actually transitioning. And if I did transition, I think I'd likely only come out socially to a very small group of people until I'd also transitioned hormonally! Perhaps my priorities are all backwards... I read your linked post and enjoyed it—I've heard vaguely similar sentiments expressed before by some of my trans friends. It's like that RuPaul quote: "We're all born naked, and the rest is drag." I hope you have a nice day, and thank you for the well-wishes :)

qarl 2y ago

Your piece is very very well said. Thank you so much for putting yourself out there.

mempko 2y ago

Beautiful writing. I also read pg's essay and was also upset. Just know there are cis men like me who are on your side and hate where tech is going. The bigotry being out in the open is disturbing.

sadcodemonkey 2y ago

I found your post extremely touching and humanizing. We need more of these perspectives right now that highlight the complex feelings of lived experiences. This is literally what makes us human, and has the potential to reach people in ways that polemic does not (which is not to say polemic isn't important). Thanks for sharing.

chrisvalleybay 2y ago

I feel nothing but support for you. May you be happy. May you be healthy. May you be safe. May you live with ease.