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Tangential point: With two kids, my wife and I still need one or other of our parents to ferry the kids back and forth to school and sports at various, sometim

Tangential point: With two kids, my wife and I still need one or other of our parents to ferry the kids back and forth to school and sports at various, sometimes regular, times. We're lucky / privileged enough to have both sets of parents and one bro/sis in-law all within a 15 minute drive. My MIL is ferrying one or other of her grandkids somewhere at least twice a week. Truly, these kids have been raised by the village / extended family. I had a (just lovely person) colleague who was a relatively recent migrant from Malaysia who had three kids, and her husband also worked and relatively long hours. They had no familial support network and I don't know how she / they managed. (everyone manages their own situation, it's just more gets sacrified, but you know what I mean). Family roots make a huge difference in not just money, but time (and availability), and yes it's an immense privilege to have that support network available - but it feels like a different kind of privilege to that of pure monetary support or the kind of privilege that breeds arrogance, corruption, and superiority complexes. It's also a privilege that I am actually looking forward to having the opportunity to provide to my children.

ty6853 2y ago
Immigrants survive because their children have more independence. In one karen helicopter parent town I had police called on me because my child was crying so a law must have been broken. They looked up my license, saw I came from <Immigrants dominant city>. They called my city and asked if the child was kidnapped and were essentially told to fuck off by my hometown police. I later got the body cam and these pathetic beasts were shocked my local police would not entertain their claims or even really give them the time of day as it were. So you can see the difference -- in karentown you must shuttle the smiling children everywhere or have them taken by CPS because God forbid they bike to a playground and entertain themselves. Meanwhile in immigrant town no one is entertaining even fraudulent kidnapping claims.

ty6853 2y ago

Immigrants survive because their children have more independence. In one karen helicopter parent town I had police called on me because my child was crying so a law must have been broken. They looked up my license, saw I came from <Immigrants dominant city>. They called my city and asked if the child was kidnapped and were essentially told to fuck off by my hometown police. I later got the body cam and these pathetic beasts were shocked my local police would not entertain their claims or even really give them the time of day as it were. So you can see the difference -- in karentown you must shuttle the smiling children everywhere or have them taken by CPS because God forbid they bike to a playground and entertain themselves. Meanwhile in immigrant town no one is entertaining even fraudulent kidnapping claims.