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It's an outlier to the common case: HN'ers who have kinks but feel resigned to tacitly explore them only online. In other words, OP's action isn't orthogonal t
by jancsika 2y ago
It's an outlier to the common case: HN'ers who have kinks but feel resigned to tacitly explore them only online.
In other words, OP's action isn't orthogonal to the average HN'ers interests-- it's a healthy alternative (well realistically, supplement).
- kelseyfrog 2y agoI'd add that some aspects are profoundly healthy. There is a regular cuddle party event in my area that begins with an informative and interactive workshop on consent and negotiation. Being able to practice delivering "no", negotiating to find common ground, and asking for what I want has been transformative experience for me. I'm a better communicator - something that I use now in both my vanilla and non-vanilla lives.