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> My main issue is that I can’t find women who find me physically attractive My main issue is that I can't find someone willing to sell me $VTI at $100/share.

> My main issue is that I can’t find women who find me physically attractive My main issue is that I can't find someone willing to sell me $VTI at $100/share. Is it possible that your standards of what you consider a woman "attractive enough to date" are too high, and so you are filtering out potential candidates that would be happy to be with you? Four years seems like a really long time for someone actively looking to be in a relationship to stay single, and surgery with the objective of finding a partner seems wildly extreme (just my own opinion, I clearly do not know your circumstances). I am the most average looking (if that) man on the planet, and really never had too much trouble dating, and I live in Silicon Valley where the statistics are not even in my favor. Certainly I never went after the prototypical "Instagram model" as that would have dramatically affected my chances, but by no means I am less happy.

missedthecue 2y ago
There really isn't a good solution here. Lowering your standards to date someone you don't find attractive just so you get into a relationship isn't healthy for you and it's not fair to your partner. I would consider it a deal breaker if I found out my partner didn't think I was attractive.
- bradlys 2y ago
  > I would consider it a deal breaker if I found out my partner didn't think I was attractive. Most women really feel this too. For better or worse, most women feel their self-worth is tied to their looks. If you told her that you didn't find her physically attractive (but still loved her and so on), you'd be broken up with by the overwhelming majority of women. I don't know if I've ever met a single woman who has ever said different. I'm sure they exist but may as well be a rounding error.