I listened to an advice show many years back. The vast majority of callers had a question that could be paraphrased: "I have this problem, and I should do X,

I listened to an advice show many years back. The vast majority of callers had a question that could be paraphrased: "I have this problem, and I should do X, but I really want to do Y." The host would say, "do X." Once I realized that, I noticed that I sometimes stumbled over the same choice.