> This describes my wife almost exactly. Developed gluten and lactose intolerance right around 40. Anecdotally, I've heard this from other women in my wife's p

> This describes my wife almost exactly. Developed gluten and lactose intolerance right around 40. Anecdotally, I've heard this from other women in my wife's peer group so I also wonder if some of this is related to hormonal changes from child birth or maybe even pre-menopause. Her reactions are not as severe as your spouse's -- just gasiness and general abdominal discomfort (enough that it's not worth it for the satisfaction of eating pasta and dairy day-to-day). She will still occasionally indulge. I, for one, still happily consume gluten and lactose (to her chagrin) despite being Asian.