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I can tell you that as a cis-male, there are many people that sign up for apps like Tinder that represent themselves either incorrectly, don't fit into the filt

I can tell you that as a cis-male, there are many people that sign up for apps like Tinder that represent themselves either incorrectly, don't fit into the filters that are available, or gender themselves in a way that don't mesh well with cis-for-cis relationships. I hope that doesn't come off as harsh or hateful, because it absolutely isn't. I feel like a lot of non-cis people are subjected to a lot of unnecessary hate and/or miscommunication because of the way most apps work. I might be a cis-male, but I don't want to see anyone hurt or hated on for their sexual preferences. I'm not overly PC, but nobody deserves hate or violence, especially from a dating app that can't tailor itself to match with the right type of person. I know I rambled, but my point was that charging women or men different fees is going to create even more confusion or outright lying to save a dollar. Things are already in a pretty grey area on dating apps as they already are.

peepeepoopoo98 2y ago
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progmetaldev 2y ago
Apparently peepeepoopoo# or whatever doesn't think I need to use "cis". I normally don't, but because I saw that's how the conversation was going, I did the same. "Straight-male," does that make my words make more sense, like they didn't before? I apologize if "cis" in a sentence triggers you, I didn't think it mattered either way, other than just matching the conversation. I'm guessing it doesn't, but I just haven't had a negative reaction like this before on HN. I'm used to it on most other websites.
- dinkumthinkum 2y ago
  You might be making a wrong assumption or something. Honestly, I couldn't make heads or tails of your post. There is a point where reality comes into play. For sure, it is controversial as to whether someone event accepts that three-letter prefix as meaningful but even insofar as that, this does not apply to many people, and that is just the hard truth. The vast, vast majority of dating sites are connecting men with women and due to many other realities of the marketplace, it makes more sense to charge women less, if anything, than males. I feel like this common sense so I won't belabor it.

peepeepoopoo98 2y ago

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progmetaldev 2y ago

Apparently peepeepoopoo# or whatever doesn't think I need to use "cis". I normally don't, but because I saw that's how the conversation was going, I did the same. "Straight-male," does that make my words make more sense, like they didn't before? I apologize if "cis" in a sentence triggers you, I didn't think it mattered either way, other than just matching the conversation. I'm guessing it doesn't, but I just haven't had a negative reaction like this before on HN. I'm used to it on most other websites.

dinkumthinkum 2y ago
You might be making a wrong assumption or something. Honestly, I couldn't make heads or tails of your post. There is a point where reality comes into play. For sure, it is controversial as to whether someone event accepts that three-letter prefix as meaningful but even insofar as that, this does not apply to many people, and that is just the hard truth. The vast, vast majority of dating sites are connecting men with women and due to many other realities of the marketplace, it makes more sense to charge women less, if anything, than males. I feel like this common sense so I won't belabor it.