3 ms·

Does anyone know what happened? I haven't seen it mentioned anywhere. He was posting about breaking his ankle while skiing and a few days later we have the sad

by ksec 2y ago

Does anyone know what happened? I haven't seen it mentioned anywhere. He was posting about breaking his ankle while skiing and a few days later we have the sad news. We first lost Chris Seaton not long ago and now Noah from the Ruby Community. I will copy what Nate ( Maintainer of Puma ) wrote about Noah down below. Noah was: A member of the YJIT team. The author of "Rebuilding Rails" The creator of the Rails Ruby Bench. His big dream in life was to help build the Ruby community up. He wanted to be like the folks who worked to create the railroads during the industrial revolution. He thought Ruby was the best way to do (fill in the blank) and he wanted to share his knowledge as widely as possible. His kindness and generosity extended into every corner of his life. Noah's passing was sudden and very fast. He did not suffer. He is survived by his wife and children. Noah's wife has asked me to collect stories about Noah for the benefit of his children. They couldn't see how deep and complex and layered his life was, and she would like them to be able to understand that some day. And If you have a story about Noah, please share it in this Google form [1] . You can read about some of those stories on Reddit in [2] [1] https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfQgRPWa7AjjfrOJKjgExKb-SEnOx6ojqTcJgzvWbEvuGBRfA/viewform https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfQgRPWa7AjjfrOJKjg... [2] https://old.reddit.com/r/ruby/comments/1hmynb3/noah_gibbs_codefolio_has_passed_away/ https://old.reddit.com/r/ruby/comments/1hmynb3/noah_gibbs_co...

solarmist 2y ago
It appears that the stories shared are being posted to his Facebook account. https://www.facebook.com/share/1K49KzbZN7/ https://www.facebook.com/share/1K49KzbZN7/
- olivierlacan 2y ago
  Thank you for sharing this. Reading memories from the people Noah impacted in his life feels like a good way to understand the kind of person he was.
Trasmatta 2y ago
> Does anyone know what happened? I haven't seen it mentioned anywhere. I haven't seen what happened either. Hopefully it's not inappropriate to bring up in this thread, but I've always found it curious how there seems to so often be a cultural expectation of secrecy when someone dies young, and some treat it as wrong to even wonder. I'm not sure why that is. Is this something specific to Western cultures, or is this worldwide? It makes total sense to me to respect the family of the deceased and to not ever ask them for details, but I do find it interesting how often this happens. People are naturally going to wonder: it would make sense that there might even evolutionary pressure to be curious about how someone died. (With the disclaimer of "off the cuff musings about evolutionary psychology are probably usually wrong.")
- n2d4 2y ago
  > I'm not sure why that is. Well, you explained it in your second paragraph; to respect the family, and the deceased themself. Some causes of death (suicide, overdose, etc.) come with a lot of private information about the individual that they might not have chosen to share.
  - neom 2y ago
    I read somewhere the family (It seemed) said "he died very quickly in no pain". (Edit: https://www.reddit.com/r/ruby/comments/1hmynb3/noah_gibbs_codefolio_has_passed_away/ https://www.reddit.com/r/ruby/comments/1hmynb3/noah_gibbs_co...)
  - Trasmatta 2y ago
    Yeah, that makes sense. I think it's always right for family's to choose not to share details, and I don't think it's ever appropriate for people to bug them for details. I think what I wonder a little bit more about is why it's seen as inappropriate for people to just wonder what happened, even though I feel that's a natural human response, especially if they knew the person in some way (as long as that wondering doesn't move into boundary crossing).
    - neom 2y ago
      I don't think it's the wondering people are turned off by, it's the wondering out loud. I'd imagine everybody wonders. I have no opinion, but people (around the globe) seem to feel strongly about this.
    - PittleyDunkin 2y ago
      It's generally considered rude to gawk at other peoples' suffering, even if it is a normal and empathizable reaction. I think this gets even more acute the closer to the suffering the action gets. I doubt many people would be surprised that people are curious about what happened, though. (FWIW I perceived your comment as "natural curiousity" moreso than gawking, thanks to your respectful hedging.)
    - 2y ago
deleted 2y ago
[deleted]

by ksec 2y ago

solarmist 2y ago

It appears that the stories shared are being posted to his Facebook account. https://www.facebook.com/share/1K49KzbZN7/ https://www.facebook.com/share/1K49KzbZN7/

olivierlacan 2y ago
Thank you for sharing this. Reading memories from the people Noah impacted in his life feels like a good way to understand the kind of person he was.

Trasmatta 2y ago

> Does anyone know what happened? I haven't seen it mentioned anywhere. I haven't seen what happened either. Hopefully it's not inappropriate to bring up in this thread, but I've always found it curious how there seems to so often be a cultural expectation of secrecy when someone dies young, and some treat it as wrong to even wonder. I'm not sure why that is. Is this something specific to Western cultures, or is this worldwide? It makes total sense to me to respect the family of the deceased and to not ever ask them for details, but I do find it interesting how often this happens. People are naturally going to wonder: it would make sense that there might even evolutionary pressure to be curious about how someone died. (With the disclaimer of "off the cuff musings about evolutionary psychology are probably usually wrong.")

n2d4 2y ago
> I'm not sure why that is. Well, you explained it in your second paragraph; to respect the family, and the deceased themself. Some causes of death (suicide, overdose, etc.) come with a lot of private information about the individual that they might not have chosen to share.
- neom 2y ago
  I read somewhere the family (It seemed) said "he died very quickly in no pain". (Edit: https://www.reddit.com/r/ruby/comments/1hmynb3/noah_gibbs_codefolio_has_passed_away/ https://www.reddit.com/r/ruby/comments/1hmynb3/noah_gibbs_co...)
- Trasmatta 2y ago
  Yeah, that makes sense. I think it's always right for family's to choose not to share details, and I don't think it's ever appropriate for people to bug them for details. I think what I wonder a little bit more about is why it's seen as inappropriate for people to just wonder what happened, even though I feel that's a natural human response, especially if they knew the person in some way (as long as that wondering doesn't move into boundary crossing).
  - neom 2y ago
    I don't think it's the wondering people are turned off by, it's the wondering out loud. I'd imagine everybody wonders. I have no opinion, but people (around the globe) seem to feel strongly about this.
  - PittleyDunkin 2y ago
    It's generally considered rude to gawk at other peoples' suffering, even if it is a normal and empathizable reaction. I think this gets even more acute the closer to the suffering the action gets. I doubt many people would be surprised that people are curious about what happened, though. (FWIW I perceived your comment as "natural curiousity" moreso than gawking, thanks to your respectful hedging.)
  - 2y ago

deleted 2y ago

[deleted]