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Regarding the part of breaking up with girlfriend shortly after a winning startup exit, I'm reminded of a friend. (Different situation, but something to think
by neilv 2y ago
Regarding the part of breaking up with girlfriend shortly after a winning startup exit, I'm reminded of a friend. (Different situation, but something to think about.)
She saw her bf through the difficult process of a developing a creative work, and eventually he completed it, won a prestigious reward... and he broke up with her.
He got invited to the White House because of the award, and I think missing out on that recognition and experience, where she could've attended as the partner, was symbolic for her.
It wasn't that he was upgrading, since she was an all-around catch, including probably being fabulous at whatever kind of cocktail party circles he entered.
It did seem like awkward timing, to decide that a relationship wasn't going to work out, after all.
(Don't worry, she's OK now: highly accomplished in her own career and creative side, and is also raising a family with a better match.)
- cj 2y agoSure, awkward timing. But the alternative would be to change the timing for… optics?
- elevatedastalt 2y agoNo, the alternative would be to not drop your gf merely to "find yourself".
- VectorLock 2y agoAnd suddenly wanting to "find yourself" when you don't need the support any more. Sounds like a pretty shitty person. To some people, loyalty counts for nothing.
- neilv 2y agoI think they put themself out there a bit in writing, which is commendable, and we don't know the full story. I think the value is to reflect upon our own situations, and mentally file away these stories for future reference and reflection.
- khazhoux 2y ago> And suddenly wanting to "find yourself" when you don't need the support any more. It's like you took away the literal opposite meaning of what OP wrote. The entire post is him sharing his personal crisis and total lack of purpose and motivation. He is literally saying he does not know what he needs to find his way out of that. But he decided he needed to not be in a relationship (or in that specific relationship) at this time. How does that make him a shitty person? Surely you're not suggesting he should stick with her so she can partake in the financial gains.
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- matrix87 2y agowhat should he have done? given her half first?
- lazyasciiart 2y agoWhy not? Would that make him feel worse somehow? How would he even know?
- s1artibartfast 2y agoLife doesn't always play out with clean narratives. People change in unexpected ways and sometimes getting through a tough time is specifically what prompts growth. The alternative is to live a lie or never change.
- khazhoux 2y agoLet me present a more charitable phrasing of what OP wrote: He is going through an unanticipated personal crisis, and decided he needed to be alone at this point in his life. Should he have kept the relationship going because he has money now?
- elevatedastalt 2y agoYeah, I found that quite shitty. Some vague Bollywood BS about finding oneself and no meaningful reasons for ending a 2yr long relationship.
- sangnoir 2y agoNot surprising for someone who describes post-acquisition colleagues as NPCs. They do have a modicum of self-awareness around wanting to be Elon, so perhaps there's hope. I'm only realizing now how empathy goes a long way in giving a sense of purpose. It reads like the first act for a movie that can go in one of many directions: a drama about a middle-aged, coke-fiend Miami "baller"; a tragedy about a bad Ayahuasca trip that leads to a psychotic break; or a heartwarming romantic comedy about an asshole with a heart of gold who finds themself (and true love) in Hawaii, with a quirky, doe-eyed British tourist as the love interest. Edit: curious to know that the DOGE has ramped up and staffed with SV geniuses to be set loose on complex systems with long feedback loops. The next four^w few years will be interesting.
- elevatedastalt 2y agoIt really is quite comical. "Within 5 minutes of my first hike, the trees smiled at me and whispered their simple wisdom."
- tortilla 2y agoThey really need to bring back Silicon Valley for new episodes.
- sangnoir 2y agoThe whole post is Hannemanesque, isn't it? It could easily be a flashback episode (or prequel spin-off) of Russ' struggles after selling his Radio on Internet startup. For timeline purposes, he'd briefly work for VP Cheney's task Force on Iraq, until he gets bored.
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- globular-toast 2y agoWhen a relationship fails you can be certain about one thing: something wasn't working. Many bad relationships continue, but no good relationships end. There are many factors that can make a relationship bad that people will not talk about, like sex. You just have to give people the benefit of the doubt really.
- karolist 2y agoYou don't know enough to know the full picture, easy to draw conclusions sure, but they are most likely incorrect.
- Lionga 2y agoI assume she was just an NPC so it does not matter