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pyramid scheme of having a purpose

by tayo42 2y ago

philosopher1234 2y ago
That’s humanity for you
programmertote 2y ago
A unique (and IMO, correct) way to put it. I personally don't want to have a kid of my own blood. But I want to adopt one or two and maybe foster a few IF I become financially capable, which is probably a decade or so away. I do believe that having a kid of your own in this day and age (esp. when you are working day job and depending on that job for healthcare, housing, etc.) is unfair for the kid who will join you in your life. Sure you'll love him/her, but the reality is the kid will have to grind (again, assuming that you are not a multi-millionaire) when s/he reaches certain age. The best use of our resources, when we accumulate a good amount of wealth to sustain ourselves and have a bit more extra to spare, is to adopt/foster or do something philanthropic entirely (so many homeless, sick, hungry people that you can help).
- RonaldDump 2y ago
  >don't want to have a kid of my own blood. But I want to adopt Can you elaborate? This is totally alien to me. It basically defeats the point. There must be some monstrous self-loathing involved?
  - vermilingua 2y ago
    It’s not necessarily self-loathing to accept that you have genes you don’t want to pass on, but still want to have a child.
  - lazyasciiart 2y ago
    "The point" for me would not be spreading my genes. It would be to spread my parenting and resources. Possibly an easier idea for me because several of my many siblings already have multiple children that could be swapped in to my childhood photos without anyone noticing. My genes are pretty well established.
    - candidafighter2 2y ago
      [flagged]
  - GaylordTuring 2y ago
    What point does it defeat and why? I’m assuming that you’re talking about evolution here, where having your own kids rather than taking care of someone else’s have been adaptive, but that’s just like saying that the point of a large rock on a beach is to be so large as to not be swept into sea by the waves. If you meant something else, please clarify!
  - Lionga 2y ago
    No understanding it to me points out a monstrous narcissistic complex in you. While I can understand not wanting to have a kid of your own blood very easy for many different reasons
elevatedastalt 2y ago
No, the act of raising a kid itself gives people purpose, so it's not a pyramid scheme by any means, but let's not let facts come in the way of a zinger of a one-liner I guess?
- tayo42 2y ago
  What do your kids do then when they start looking for their purpose in life? Have more kids? Lol Your coming in aggressive though
  - elevatedastalt 2y ago
    They will be independent humans who can choose the find it the way they want, including by having kids of their own if that works for them.
    - jascha_eng 2y ago
      NGL, still sounds like a pyramid scheme to me. I mean I like kids and I might have kids in the future. But I'd rather have purpose and joy and share that with future generations and keep it alive. I wanna be proud of humanity and what we are accomplishing and progressing into, not fix my own misery by bringing someone else into a world to distract me from existential dread.
- nice_byte 2y ago
  it is, just like everything else, a manufactured purpose used to paper over the normal state of existential dread. just happens to be the one that most people default on.
- khazhoux 2y ago
  It was a humor-joke.
- keybored 2y ago
  It is perhaps a pyramid scheme if you look at it in a certain way. Which doesn’t mean it is bad (unless you are anti-natalist). It’s just funny that it can be conceptualized like that. You spend 20–40 years trying various things, living for yourself, finding nothing that sticks. Apparently being an idiot, but you’re just inexperienced. There’s some hole in your life. Then you have kids. Aha! It makes sense. Living for others! This is it! The irony being that now those people-you-live-for have to go through the same process, where 1/3 to half their life they spend in that apparently meaningless phase where they haven’t found their purpose yet. This is totally void if you are the kind of person who cruised by and was happy without children but then the transition to having children made total sense as well.
nice_byte 2y ago
you're getting downvoted, but know that you are correct.

pyramid scheme of having a purpose

by tayo42 2y ago

pyramid scheme of having a purpose

philosopher1234 2y ago

That’s humanity for you

programmertote 2y ago

A unique (and IMO, correct) way to put it. I personally don't want to have a kid of my own blood. But I want to adopt one or two and maybe foster a few IF I become financially capable, which is probably a decade or so away. I do believe that having a kid of your own in this day and age (esp. when you are working day job and depending on that job for healthcare, housing, etc.) is unfair for the kid who will join you in your life. Sure you'll love him/her, but the reality is the kid will have to grind (again, assuming that you are not a multi-millionaire) when s/he reaches certain age. The best use of our resources, when we accumulate a good amount of wealth to sustain ourselves and have a bit more extra to spare, is to adopt/foster or do something philanthropic entirely (so many homeless, sick, hungry people that you can help).

RonaldDump 2y ago
>don't want to have a kid of my own blood. But I want to adopt Can you elaborate? This is totally alien to me. It basically defeats the point. There must be some monstrous self-loathing involved?
- vermilingua 2y ago
  It’s not necessarily self-loathing to accept that you have genes you don’t want to pass on, but still want to have a child.
- lazyasciiart 2y ago
  "The point" for me would not be spreading my genes. It would be to spread my parenting and resources. Possibly an easier idea for me because several of my many siblings already have multiple children that could be swapped in to my childhood photos without anyone noticing. My genes are pretty well established.
  - candidafighter2 2y ago
    [flagged]
- GaylordTuring 2y ago
  What point does it defeat and why? I’m assuming that you’re talking about evolution here, where having your own kids rather than taking care of someone else’s have been adaptive, but that’s just like saying that the point of a large rock on a beach is to be so large as to not be swept into sea by the waves. If you meant something else, please clarify!
- Lionga 2y ago
  No understanding it to me points out a monstrous narcissistic complex in you. While I can understand not wanting to have a kid of your own blood very easy for many different reasons

elevatedastalt 2y ago

No, the act of raising a kid itself gives people purpose, so it's not a pyramid scheme by any means, but let's not let facts come in the way of a zinger of a one-liner I guess?

tayo42 2y ago
What do your kids do then when they start looking for their purpose in life? Have more kids? Lol Your coming in aggressive though
- elevatedastalt 2y ago
  They will be independent humans who can choose the find it the way they want, including by having kids of their own if that works for them.
  - jascha_eng 2y ago
    NGL, still sounds like a pyramid scheme to me. I mean I like kids and I might have kids in the future. But I'd rather have purpose and joy and share that with future generations and keep it alive. I wanna be proud of humanity and what we are accomplishing and progressing into, not fix my own misery by bringing someone else into a world to distract me from existential dread.
nice_byte 2y ago
it is, just like everything else, a manufactured purpose used to paper over the normal state of existential dread. just happens to be the one that most people default on.
khazhoux 2y ago
It was a humor-joke.
keybored 2y ago
It is perhaps a pyramid scheme if you look at it in a certain way. Which doesn’t mean it is bad (unless you are anti-natalist). It’s just funny that it can be conceptualized like that. You spend 20–40 years trying various things, living for yourself, finding nothing that sticks. Apparently being an idiot, but you’re just inexperienced. There’s some hole in your life. Then you have kids. Aha! It makes sense. Living for others! This is it! The irony being that now those people-you-live-for have to go through the same process, where 1/3 to half their life they spend in that apparently meaningless phase where they haven’t found their purpose yet. This is totally void if you are the kind of person who cruised by and was happy without children but then the transition to having children made total sense as well.

nice_byte 2y ago

you're getting downvoted, but know that you are correct.