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Why would the DM put something in their game that actually traumatizes people?

by mmooss 2y ago

UncleMeat 2y ago
While I'd generally expect this to be naturally rare in dnd, this isn't the case in many other games. Monsterhearts deals with unhealthy sexual relationships at its core. Night Witches deals with sexism at its core. Bluebeard's Bride deals with straight up sexual violence at its core. These topics are heavy and its worth having some systems in place to help people navigate them. This is especially true with con culture, where people are likely to play ttrpgs with total strangers.
danudey 2y ago
Some people just don't understand social norms and, you know, other people's feelings, and use these sorts of games as their own personal power fantasy. There have been a kind of gross number of threads I've seen where women join a group, make their character, and then spend the entire first session having their character abused, belittled, sexually assaulted, impregnated, etc. Worth noting that not all D&D groups are among close friends; sometimes you get invited to a group because you're looking for people to play with and your friend group (if you have one) doesn't play. No different than joining a frisbee golf team, except with a much greater chance of a bottom-tier caliber of people.
rcxdude 2y ago
It's not hard to do inadvertently, especially if you are going for a game that deals with heavy topics. Something that feels to be about the same level of seriousness to the DM may hit too close to home for a player (and one reason for X-card like systems on top of discussing stuff before the game, is that the player themselves may not realise themselves until they're in the moment)
araes 2y ago
Because they're manipulative, mean humans. Players do the same. Try to run a somewhat normal game, and your players will purposely try to act in some of the most reprehensible ways imaginable just to try to force you to run their disgusting fantasies.

Why would the DM put something in their game that actually traumatizes people?

by mmooss 2y ago

Why would the DM put something in their game that actually traumatizes people?

While I'd generally expect this to be naturally rare in dnd, this isn't the case in many other games. Monsterhearts deals with unhealthy sexual relationships at its core. Night Witches deals with sexism at its core. Bluebeard's Bride deals with straight up sexual violence at its core. These topics are heavy and its worth having some systems in place to help people navigate them. This is especially true with con culture, where people are likely to play ttrpgs with total strangers.

danudey 2y ago

Some people just don't understand social norms and, you know, other people's feelings, and use these sorts of games as their own personal power fantasy. There have been a kind of gross number of threads I've seen where women join a group, make their character, and then spend the entire first session having their character abused, belittled, sexually assaulted, impregnated, etc. Worth noting that not all D&D groups are among close friends; sometimes you get invited to a group because you're looking for people to play with and your friend group (if you have one) doesn't play. No different than joining a frisbee golf team, except with a much greater chance of a bottom-tier caliber of people.

rcxdude 2y ago

It's not hard to do inadvertently, especially if you are going for a game that deals with heavy topics. Something that feels to be about the same level of seriousness to the DM may hit too close to home for a player (and one reason for X-card like systems on top of discussing stuff before the game, is that the player themselves may not realise themselves until they're in the moment)

araes 2y ago

Because they're manipulative, mean humans. Players do the same. Try to run a somewhat normal game, and your players will purposely try to act in some of the most reprehensible ways imaginable just to try to force you to run their disgusting fantasies.