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> People want to just be able to target their behavior to a general, objective social norm But herein lies the problem. There is no general, objective social n
by haswell 2y ago
> People want to just be able to target their behavior to a general, objective social norm
But herein lies the problem. There is no general, objective social norm that covers the range of topics necessary.
Social norms are regional, cultural, familial, situational, etc. If you were to optimize for some universal standard, the result would be pretty boring. Think: “what would be appropriate in a corporate workplace?”.
Learning to navigate this as a group seems like a rather reasonable and necessary social skill for everyone involved. People who bristle at those with certain sensitivities seem to be masking sensitivities of their own and would prefer to just avoid a potentially uncomfortable conversation.
And I’ve gotta be blunt: many gamers (tabletop and otherwise) are often all too eager to blow right past norms or are unaware of them completely, which leads to recommendations like the above being helpful/necessary.
- rayiner 2y ago> But herein lies the problem. There is no general, objective social norm that covers the range of topics necessary. I’m pretty sure people happily played board games together in the recent past without these conversations.
- danudey 2y agoA lot of people did, and a lot of people were made to feel extremely uncomfortable and unwelcome and ended up leaving the game/community because of their bad experiences with DMs who don't understand that it's not okay to have NPCs sexually assault a player's character just because they're a woman. Now that we're laying out these kinds of guidelines, maybe the people who legitimately don't understand why that's bad will stop and listen to what others have to say, and the ones who don't will be showing that they're deliberately ignoring how they make other people feel.