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i'd change that to like-minded and valuing a tight knit community. just valuing a tight knit community is not enough, because if i don't fit in with those peopl
by em-bee 2y ago
i'd change that to like-minded and valuing a tight knit community. just valuing a tight knit community is not enough, because if i don't fit in with those people than they won't let me join.
personally i am going for friendly and tolerant. likeminded people (for me maybe the kind of people that read hackernews) are hard to find, and are a reason for me to prefer big cities.
- BehindBlueEyes 2y agoI believed I needed to befriend like-minded people for the longest time, and only recently did I realize that held me back - my closest friendships now are with not so like minded people and they are more fullfilling and stronger than any since making friends in school. Where did this idea that early friendships are not as good because they weren't formed intentionally with carefully curated people come from? Isn't the fact childhood friendships can endure despite people changing a clue that maybe it is doing things right? I would never become homeless as long as I have my childhood friends, none of my curated friends would let each other move in without a second thought. I've made more new close friends in a year of hangout out with anyone willing to spend time together than I did in the last 5 trying hard to find like minded people.
- sanderjd 2y agoRight there with you!