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"But he seemed so happy" is said after every suicide. The truth is that we don't know what goes on in peoples' heads and never will. I feel for the parents who

by paxys 2y ago

"But he seemed so happy" is said after every suicide. The truth is that we don't know what goes on in peoples' heads and never will. I feel for the parents who are being pulled into these nonsense conspiracy theories started by bored internet commenters.

indigodaddy 2y ago
Are those who are so depressed that they are close to suicide able to consistently put on a happy face for friends and family? I suppose they likely do perhaps? But I’d imagine the charade consumes an extremely high amount of emotional energy which might serve to heighten the depression. I feel like though that if someone were close enough that they’d have to detect some sort of inkling of a severe problem.
- jpc0 2y ago
  People are oblivious, I can assure you of that. They look at Joe and see the same Joe they have been seeing their entire life, when in reality that Joe ain't there anymore, he's about to "step out"...
- FireBeyond 2y ago
  As someone who sees this, I have on multiple occasions heard, "He seemed like he was struggling, but the past few days/weeks things seemed to be better and he seemed much more calm and doing well." Oftentimes, sadly, that's because the person has made the decision to end things, and that gives them some sense of relief for the pain they are going through. I found the best summation in one of the most unlikely places, the show Nip/Tuck: "I think that if a person is in a great deal of pain, physical or spiritual, and they've exhausted all their options, I wouldn't judge them for it. I'd say a silent prayer and hope death brought them the peace of mind life never could give them."
chabes 2y ago
> "But he seemed so happy" is said after every suicide. Is absolutely is not. How can you say such a thing without a source?
- dambi0 2y ago
  Because it’s an opinion. And how would you imagine you could even find a source to support that. What would the research look like?
  - chabes 2y ago
    I don’t imagine you could find a source to support such claims. That’s the point
  - tasuki 2y ago
    I can be your source. A friend's sister killed herself some years ago. She mentioned many times that she didn't want to live. No one I know said "but she seemed so happy" afterwards.
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by paxys 2y ago

indigodaddy 2y ago

Are those who are so depressed that they are close to suicide able to consistently put on a happy face for friends and family? I suppose they likely do perhaps? But I’d imagine the charade consumes an extremely high amount of emotional energy which might serve to heighten the depression. I feel like though that if someone were close enough that they’d have to detect some sort of inkling of a severe problem.

jpc0 2y ago
People are oblivious, I can assure you of that. They look at Joe and see the same Joe they have been seeing their entire life, when in reality that Joe ain't there anymore, he's about to "step out"...
FireBeyond 2y ago
As someone who sees this, I have on multiple occasions heard, "He seemed like he was struggling, but the past few days/weeks things seemed to be better and he seemed much more calm and doing well." Oftentimes, sadly, that's because the person has made the decision to end things, and that gives them some sense of relief for the pain they are going through. I found the best summation in one of the most unlikely places, the show Nip/Tuck: "I think that if a person is in a great deal of pain, physical or spiritual, and they've exhausted all their options, I wouldn't judge them for it. I'd say a silent prayer and hope death brought them the peace of mind life never could give them."

chabes 2y ago

> "But he seemed so happy" is said after every suicide. Is absolutely is not. How can you say such a thing without a source?

dambi0 2y ago
Because it’s an opinion. And how would you imagine you could even find a source to support that. What would the research look like?
- chabes 2y ago
  I don’t imagine you could find a source to support such claims. That’s the point
- tasuki 2y ago
  I can be your source. A friend's sister killed herself some years ago. She mentioned many times that she didn't want to live. No one I know said "but she seemed so happy" afterwards.

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