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Or not just limited amounts of time, but limited types of people. I have some friends who I have no trouble talking with all day. But with the overwhelming maj

Or not just limited amounts of time, but limited types of people. I have some friends who I have no trouble talking with all day. But with the overwhelming majority of people I meet, even if we get along well, I feel exhausted after too much interaction. Dealing with some types of "extroverts" is particularly tiring due to not caring about the weird formalities and talking around things that a lot do to seem "friendly". It's like dealing with an MBA--using pointlessly fluffy language to say pointless "pleasant" things and being so afraid to step on any toes that their statements are just boring and void of any substance. But there are also some extroverts who know how to gauge your personality in an instant and know whether you're the type who likes the fluffy stuff, or you want to jump right into talking about specific subjects. Then there are fellow introverts, and unfortunately, it becomes obvious how bad my own personality and conversation skills are with them. Lots of super brief answers and not engaging in any discussion. But I guess when you're the one talking to an introvert, even as an introvert, it's easy to come across as one of the aforementioned annoying extroverts.

pydry 2y ago
I've never been able to distinguish this from simply being shy. More shyness means more stress in certain social interactions and stress is tiring. Moreover, I'm pretty sure you could take the most extroverted person around and take them out of their social element and they too would tire out. And vice versa, some of the most introverted people don't get tired out by their spouse.
- RoyalHenOil 2y ago
  The difference between introversion and shyness is the difference between exhaustion and fear. They can influence each other (being afraid all the time is exhausting, for example), but they are ultimately separate emotions that need not coexist or have any relationship to each other.
LouisSayers 2y ago
Even as an extrovert you get people who just ramble. In a social setting you can just tune out or move on, but in a work setting... It's extremely tiring because you're trying to catch what's important and distinguish from the unnecessary fluff.

pydry 2y ago

I've never been able to distinguish this from simply being shy. More shyness means more stress in certain social interactions and stress is tiring. Moreover, I'm pretty sure you could take the most extroverted person around and take them out of their social element and they too would tire out. And vice versa, some of the most introverted people don't get tired out by their spouse.

RoyalHenOil 2y ago
The difference between introversion and shyness is the difference between exhaustion and fear. They can influence each other (being afraid all the time is exhausting, for example), but they are ultimately separate emotions that need not coexist or have any relationship to each other.

LouisSayers 2y ago

Even as an extrovert you get people who just ramble. In a social setting you can just tune out or move on, but in a work setting... It's extremely tiring because you're trying to catch what's important and distinguish from the unnecessary fluff.