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why do misfits have to do things or change the world? Just be a misfit for the sake of being a misfit. Just be yourself. You're trying to fit misfits into the

why do misfits have to do things or change the world? Just be a misfit for the sake of being a misfit. Just be yourself. You're trying to fit misfits into the same type of homogenous box that school systems put kids in.

daenz 14y ago
> Just be a misfit for the sake of being a misfit Please don't do that. The world has enough people trying to be unique and quirky for the sake of it. > Just be yourself. Yes, do this.
- Androsynth 14y ago
  When I say misfit, I mean genuinely different. Being unique and quirky because that is currently what is the 'in' thing isn't unique, different or being a misfit at all.
johnchristopher 14y ago
> Just be yourself Good luck with that. http://threekeywords.com/quotes/category/author/tocqueville/ http://threekeywords.com/quotes/category/author/tocqueville/
- drumdance 14y ago
  I think the challenge is to be your real self, not the pretend self you present to the world. For most of us that means confronting a lot of fears.
  - eevilspock 14y ago
    here here. Fear is the enemy. Not coincidentally fear is what a lot of genuine misfits feel in primary school.
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  - johnchristopher 14y ago
    There is no real or false self. There is only you. "Be your realself" bears the same psychological paradoxes and pressure than "be yourself". Check http://beyondgrowth.net/identity/be-yourself-but-not-because-i-told-you-to-the-paradoxes-of-authenticity/ http://beyondgrowth.net/identity/be-yourself-but-not-because... for a casual approach.
    - drumdance 14y ago
      When you were a child you were mostly driven by emotion. As you got older you learned to control your emotions. But for many people they over-control their emotions. That is, they worry too much what other people think about them instead of expressing their authentic desires. Now that I'm in my forties, I definitely feel like I am more myself than I was in my twenties.
      - johnchristopher 14y ago
        > That is, they worry too much what other people think about them instead of expressing their authentic desires. You make it sound like it's mutually exclusive. You don't need to express your authentic desires or to fulfill them to be a psychological healthy person. I stand by my point that we are always ourselves, wether we want to hide what we call ourselves or not. And hiding it isn't a problem in itself. Reality boundaries are healthy to our desires of "total desires". It's normal to be stressed out by the limites life impose on our desires.

daenz 14y ago

> Just be a misfit for the sake of being a misfit Please don't do that. The world has enough people trying to be unique and quirky for the sake of it. > Just be yourself. Yes, do this.

Androsynth 14y ago
When I say misfit, I mean genuinely different. Being unique and quirky because that is currently what is the 'in' thing isn't unique, different or being a misfit at all.

johnchristopher 14y ago

> Just be yourself Good luck with that. http://threekeywords.com/quotes/category/author/tocqueville/ http://threekeywords.com/quotes/category/author/tocqueville/

drumdance 14y ago
I think the challenge is to be your real self, not the pretend self you present to the world. For most of us that means confronting a lot of fears.
- eevilspock 14y ago
  here here. Fear is the enemy. Not coincidentally fear is what a lot of genuine misfits feel in primary school.
  - deleted 14y ago
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- johnchristopher 14y ago
  There is no real or false self. There is only you. "Be your realself" bears the same psychological paradoxes and pressure than "be yourself". Check http://beyondgrowth.net/identity/be-yourself-but-not-because-i-told-you-to-the-paradoxes-of-authenticity/ http://beyondgrowth.net/identity/be-yourself-but-not-because... for a casual approach.
  - drumdance 14y ago
    When you were a child you were mostly driven by emotion. As you got older you learned to control your emotions. But for many people they over-control their emotions. That is, they worry too much what other people think about them instead of expressing their authentic desires. Now that I'm in my forties, I definitely feel like I am more myself than I was in my twenties.
    - johnchristopher 14y ago
      > That is, they worry too much what other people think about them instead of expressing their authentic desires. You make it sound like it's mutually exclusive. You don't need to express your authentic desires or to fulfill them to be a psychological healthy person. I stand by my point that we are always ourselves, wether we want to hide what we call ourselves or not. And hiding it isn't a problem in itself. Reality boundaries are healthy to our desires of "total desires". It's normal to be stressed out by the limites life impose on our desires.