>"If you going out trying to find a friend, friends are scarce. If you go out trying to be a friend, friends are everywhere." My brain solidified late, in my l

>"If you going out trying to find a friend, friends are scarce. If you go out trying to be a friend, friends are everywhere." My brain solidified late, in my late 30s, but it did eventually solidify and when it did something like a switch or circuit breaker flipped and I came to this conclusion I'm going to pretend that I came to it independently. I have more, closer, friends in my 40s than I did at any time in my life previously. I don't even know how it happened, I think that I just stopped caring about any potential for embarrassment and I learned that a good conversation is equal parts statements and questions.