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If it weren’t for church services and semi-regular in-office work, my in-person contact would be just wife and kids. I believe the Japanese have a near analogo
by nobodyandproud 2y ago
If it weren’t for church services and semi-regular in-office work, my in-person contact would be just wife and kids.
I believe the Japanese have a near analogous term for this: Hikikomori.
- asp_hornet 2y agoThat is not what Hikikomori means. Hikikomori is a complete removal of oneself from society often including family and work.
- nobodyandproud 2y agoAnd “analogous” means “similar”, not identical. So what’s your point?
- Dalewyn 2y agoBeing a hikikomori also precludes immediate family members including parents, spouse, etc.; you often don't even leave your room let alone your house/apartment. Hikikomori is a level or two beyond what most westerners would think of when imagining an extremely introverted or reclusive person. The condition is more akin to PTSD stemming from severe mental/social trauma. For further context, the etymology of hikikomori is to "hiku" (literally "pull", contextually in this case to "pull back" from daily life) and "komoru" (to "shelter up", in this case most likely sheltering in your bedroom or mancave or similar safe space).
- nobodyandproud 2y agoWell, no. Hikikomori isn’t an all or nothing state of being. What makes the news and what makes it to the Western media are the most extreme cases. The actual development to the extreme (or not) can be quite gradual.
- ilbeeper 2y agoHaving regular contact with a wife and kids makes you far from being a Hikikomori.
- labster 2y agoNot if the wife is a dakimakura and the kids are anime figurines
- nobodyandproud 2y agoRegular but minimal. It’s not entirely by choice, but my social skills—never great—have degraded considerably over the last 4 years.