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For a guy at least, you want to be handsome enough but not too handsome (don’t want to be a model, but the handsomest guy in the room), and tall enough that eve
by bee_rider 2y ago
For a guy at least, you want to be handsome enough but not too handsome (don’t want to be a model, but the handsomest guy in the room), and tall enough that everybody has to look up to you, but not looming height. Then people just sort of assume you get whatever is going on if you nod and say “ok. Right. Good idea.” Which gives you enough time to look it up after the meeting is over.
The physical stats will give you a masters degree, looking it up after gets you the PhD.
- 77pt77 2y agoThis is broadly true. You want to look dominant enough with gravitas Without that any competence elicits a tremendous response from other people that can easily go all the way to murderous violence. In a sense, they feel that you are undeserving and that your competence is an affront to the "natural order". And this is in areas where there is some objective metric, which is not the norm. These are very old biological truths and they will never change at the human timescale, if ever.
- SubiculumCode 2y agoI once had a student assistant (I was a grad student, she was an undergrad), and she had the three things you aren't ever supposed to have at the same time: extreme beauty, intelligence, and super authentically nice. People wanted to not like her, but couldn't find an excuse. It happens like that sometimes. (and no, I didn't).