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I really hate "traditional values" on account of their peddlers and the history books full of horrors they have enabled but when literally every successful soci

I really hate "traditional values" on account of their peddlers and the history books full of horrors they have enabled but when literally every successful society and major religion has some semblance of a 1:1 rule even if the exceptions and edge case handling are different you kinda gotta take notice.

butlike 2y ago
Chemistry is monogamous. 1 electron. 1 pairing.
- GranularRecipe 2y ago
  In covalent bonds, it's two electrons one pair. Metallic bonds are more polyamorous.
- foogazi 2y ago
  They get excited but still bound
- lazide 2y ago
  Oh boy, just wait until you learn about Plasma.
  - fragmede 2y ago
    That's hot!
    - lazide 2y ago
      Like a cocaine fueled orgy!
- 01HNNWZ0MV43FF 2y ago
  I vote benzene for wildest non-monogamy config
kelseyfrog 2y ago
There's a tragedy of the commons when it comes to the question of "what do all of the single people do?" Each relationship beyond monogamy can be thought of as "taking away" an opportunity from the partner you would have paired with had you been monogamous. ie a relationship opportunity cost. Typically, societies with imbalanced relationship ratios, an in particular single males, tend to be more unstable. Should poly folks design their life around the consequences of disaffected young males? No, of course not. Nor should we artificially privilege monogamy to ensure social stability for obvious reasons of individualality and moral policing. We should study the phenomenon and remedy the male psyche to ensure social stability and discover, scientifically, the threshold at which we can expect it to be a problem.
mywittyname 2y ago
> major religion has some semblance of a 1:1 rule More of a one-to-many rule. Only one side is expected to be fully monogamous. It's long been socially acceptable for men to have mistresses or even multiple separate families, so long as they had the resources to take care of them all. And the social faux pas of merely sleeping with other women is very recent.
- lazide 2y ago
  One side would be stuck with a kid and have significant difficulty paying for/supporting themselves with the extra burden, without an attached male. The other one could give false names and/or disappear never to be seen again. Biologically, there are differences.

butlike 2y ago

Chemistry is monogamous. 1 electron. 1 pairing.

GranularRecipe 2y ago
In covalent bonds, it's two electrons one pair. Metallic bonds are more polyamorous.
foogazi 2y ago
They get excited but still bound
lazide 2y ago
Oh boy, just wait until you learn about Plasma.
- fragmede 2y ago
  That's hot!
  - lazide 2y ago
    Like a cocaine fueled orgy!
01HNNWZ0MV43FF 2y ago
I vote benzene for wildest non-monogamy config

kelseyfrog 2y ago

There's a tragedy of the commons when it comes to the question of "what do all of the single people do?" Each relationship beyond monogamy can be thought of as "taking away" an opportunity from the partner you would have paired with had you been monogamous. ie a relationship opportunity cost. Typically, societies with imbalanced relationship ratios, an in particular single males, tend to be more unstable. Should poly folks design their life around the consequences of disaffected young males? No, of course not. Nor should we artificially privilege monogamy to ensure social stability for obvious reasons of individualality and moral policing. We should study the phenomenon and remedy the male psyche to ensure social stability and discover, scientifically, the threshold at which we can expect it to be a problem.

mywittyname 2y ago

> major religion has some semblance of a 1:1 rule More of a one-to-many rule. Only one side is expected to be fully monogamous. It's long been socially acceptable for men to have mistresses or even multiple separate families, so long as they had the resources to take care of them all. And the social faux pas of merely sleeping with other women is very recent.

lazide 2y ago
One side would be stuck with a kid and have significant difficulty paying for/supporting themselves with the extra burden, without an attached male. The other one could give false names and/or disappear never to be seen again. Biologically, there are differences.