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But what are the outcomes of these shares of “mental load?” How much thought translates into what measure of results? In therapy my partner was shocked to learn
by wryoak 2y ago
But what are the outcomes of these shares of “mental load?” How much thought translates into what measure of results? In therapy my partner was shocked to learn how much time I spend plotting and considering our domestic affairs like cleaning and grocery shopping, but I had to admit also that only some of that thought genuinely effected household results. Some of it was just anxiety. I don’t think it’s reasonable to hold my partner accountable for fretting as much as I do about meal planning for us, but holding them accountable for producing as many meals seems entirely just.
- allears 2y agoYou sound both intelligent and self-aware, a combination of qualities that seems rare these days. I hope you and your partner (will? did?) work things out.
- itronitron 2y agoI think you can take that line of reasoning further to reach an even better place, with the goal of eliminating fretting entirely. Find alternative ways of performing tasks in order to reduce the associated anxiety, mental cost, or time it takes to complete them. What are the stressors associated with grocery shopping... other people, forgetting something, finding things, getting there? If you can pin it down then figure out an alternative approach that eliminates it.