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There's people who call themselves old at 30. I don't know if it is an excuse or what....but it's weird. I know a 50 year old personally who finished ironman t

by sage76 2y ago

There's people who call themselves old at 30. I don't know if it is an excuse or what....but it's weird. I know a 50 year old personally who finished ironman triathlon.

james-bcn 2y ago
Yes I had someone the other day ask me if they were too old to study a subject at 35... I find it very weird. I think if you don't exercise, and you don't learn new things, you probably do start feeling old pretty quickly.
- mistrial9 2y ago
  people have said directly on this board that if you are 35 and trying to program, you should consider retirement or changing lines of work
DavidPiper 2y ago
I have been one of these people. The (lack of) fitness is a huge part of it. But also, some of us just feel like we're in a rush, and we see the people around us doing and achieving things that we'd like to have done already. If you don't have kids by 30 and want them, there's a lot of nonsense telling you that time is gradually running out, etc. Our worship of youth (relevant: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ROJKEwYEx8Q https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ROJKEwYEx8Q) starts hitting different at a surprisingly young age. I assume it's far worse for women too.
busterarm 2y ago
My aunt did Ironman into her late 60s but it's not because she was "young and full of energy" it was because "she is an absolute psychopath and it affects every aspect of her life". Last I counted she has 5 current ongoing civil lawsuits, on both sides of the courtroom. Two of her own children won't speak to her and the third is getting there.
- steveBK123 2y ago
  She must be fun to have a drink with though right?
Dalewyn 2y ago
I'm 35, I consider myself old. Why? Objectively speaking, I simply can't do what I could during my 10s and 20s anymore. It's a fundamental change from becoming able to do more things as I got older, now I can do less things as I get older and that's sad. Anecdotally speaking, I'm just tired of nearly everything and I have nothing I could call life aspirations or dreams. I'm satisfied if I get through another day in peace. Some people are young until the moment they croak, some are old from the moment they gain real awareness and agency, but most people cruise from young to old on a biological slide.
- ghxst 2y ago
  Please don't take this in bad faith but unless you're struggling with health related issues these limitations seem rather self imposed. Your second paragraph makes it sound like it's mental rather than physical, have you considered a mentor or life coach?
  - Dalewyn 2y ago
    >these limitations seem rather self imposed. Simply put, aging is a bitch. I can't pull all-nighters or concentrate as hard as I could in my youth anymore, among many other things, and I'm more or less constantly exhausted simply due to the fierce but uncaring passage of time. >mental rather than physical No doubt it's more mental than physical, but it all comes down to aging one way or another. There's less wonder in life the more I experience; I'm just tired and the only explanation is I'm old, full stop. Most people are more young at 35 than I am, but I'm not one of them.
    - tmountain 2y ago
      All nighters are usually the result of poorly set expectations or poor planning. Give yourself some grace and set reasonable expectations for yourself. You just sound burned out, not old. At your age, you need to give yourself some time to figure out, and recover, from whatever is going on in your life, not blame the passage of time.
    - DougN7 2y ago
hsbshs 2y ago
Thats cause age doesnt signal what stress or trauma you have dealt with in life. Depends totally on the life experience of the person. Look at the reactions of friends and family to the Luigi Mangione story. They are all universally suprised and shocked. Why? Cause the assumption is a well educated well off 26 year old can handle what ever the environment throws at them.
clauderoux 2y ago
I live in the French Alps and many of my friends are ardent trailers. Most of them are beyond 50 and they still do 160km trails regurlaly.

by sage76 2y ago

There's people who call themselves old at 30. I don't know if it is an excuse or what....but it's weird. I know a 50 year old personally who finished ironman triathlon.

james-bcn 2y ago

Yes I had someone the other day ask me if they were too old to study a subject at 35... I find it very weird. I think if you don't exercise, and you don't learn new things, you probably do start feeling old pretty quickly.

mistrial9 2y ago
people have said directly on this board that if you are 35 and trying to program, you should consider retirement or changing lines of work

DavidPiper 2y ago

I have been one of these people. The (lack of) fitness is a huge part of it. But also, some of us just feel like we're in a rush, and we see the people around us doing and achieving things that we'd like to have done already. If you don't have kids by 30 and want them, there's a lot of nonsense telling you that time is gradually running out, etc. Our worship of youth (relevant: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ROJKEwYEx8Q https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ROJKEwYEx8Q) starts hitting different at a surprisingly young age. I assume it's far worse for women too.

busterarm 2y ago

My aunt did Ironman into her late 60s but it's not because she was "young and full of energy" it was because "she is an absolute psychopath and it affects every aspect of her life". Last I counted she has 5 current ongoing civil lawsuits, on both sides of the courtroom. Two of her own children won't speak to her and the third is getting there.

steveBK123 2y ago
She must be fun to have a drink with though right?

Dalewyn 2y ago

I'm 35, I consider myself old. Why? Objectively speaking, I simply can't do what I could during my 10s and 20s anymore. It's a fundamental change from becoming able to do more things as I got older, now I can do less things as I get older and that's sad. Anecdotally speaking, I'm just tired of nearly everything and I have nothing I could call life aspirations or dreams. I'm satisfied if I get through another day in peace. Some people are young until the moment they croak, some are old from the moment they gain real awareness and agency, but most people cruise from young to old on a biological slide.

ghxst 2y ago
Please don't take this in bad faith but unless you're struggling with health related issues these limitations seem rather self imposed. Your second paragraph makes it sound like it's mental rather than physical, have you considered a mentor or life coach?
- Dalewyn 2y ago
  >these limitations seem rather self imposed. Simply put, aging is a bitch. I can't pull all-nighters or concentrate as hard as I could in my youth anymore, among many other things, and I'm more or less constantly exhausted simply due to the fierce but uncaring passage of time. >mental rather than physical No doubt it's more mental than physical, but it all comes down to aging one way or another. There's less wonder in life the more I experience; I'm just tired and the only explanation is I'm old, full stop. Most people are more young at 35 than I am, but I'm not one of them.
  - tmountain 2y ago
    All nighters are usually the result of poorly set expectations or poor planning. Give yourself some grace and set reasonable expectations for yourself. You just sound burned out, not old. At your age, you need to give yourself some time to figure out, and recover, from whatever is going on in your life, not blame the passage of time.
  - DougN7 2y ago

hsbshs 2y ago

Thats cause age doesnt signal what stress or trauma you have dealt with in life. Depends totally on the life experience of the person. Look at the reactions of friends and family to the Luigi Mangione story. They are all universally suprised and shocked. Why? Cause the assumption is a well educated well off 26 year old can handle what ever the environment throws at them.

clauderoux 2y ago

I live in the French Alps and many of my friends are ardent trailers. Most of them are beyond 50 and they still do 160km trails regurlaly.