You're not alone. Join ADHD support groups. Kaiser has a few. There are other groups (or sub-groups) among tech people online. Of all the popular books, I like

You're not alone. Join ADHD support groups. Kaiser has a few. There are other groups (or sub-groups) among tech people online. Of all the popular books, I liked The Mini ADHD Coach. Also ADHD 2.0. 36 is young. Be glad that you understand yourself better for your next 20-30 working years, and be sure to get a good prescription for meds