There’s huge variation among individual humans. Large enough that, even if the peaks of an attribute distribution do not align between the sexes, there’s a lot

There’s huge variation among individual humans. Large enough that, even if the peaks of an attribute distribution do not align between the sexes, there’s a lot of overlap. And our personal interactions are, well, personal. They happen one-to-one or in groups that are very small relative to the population. So it’s really useful to go into personal interactions with an open mind. It’s best to compartmentalize what you might know intellectually about population studies or observations in general from a distance, from what you expect when you meet someone. Humans are so complex that any person you meet could be an outlier in some way. Even though it might not appear that way at first. > Beyond sexual desire, neither gender genuinely wants deep connection with the other. People obviously want deep connections, that’s why it is so upsetting when they don’t have any. It is why you are posting on HN about it. > As time goes on and females get mor and more independence, it’s going to look bleak for males. Women have always had emotional independence. Using the law and power to force women into marriage and parenthood did not magically create love and connection. It did create tons of abuse, violence, sadness, and other human suffering. It is good for all people that this has been reduced by changing the laws.