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"If I told you, 'I went into my backyard, I made this pill. It's amazing. It's free. If you take it, it'll actually improve your health, make you feel better, i

"If I told you, 'I went into my backyard, I made this pill. It's amazing. It's free. If you take it, it'll actually improve your health, make you feel better, improve your performance at work, improve your grades, boost your immunity,' you'd be like, 'Sign me up. I'll take that tomorrow.'" It turns out that's what social connection is. Just a little connection can go a long way in keeping us healthy.

hccb 2y ago
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- recursive 2y ago
  Some of them? Or all of them? Are you boring?
  - OnlineGladiator 2y ago
    It's possible for people to like you without you liking them back. It's not the most likely explanation, but it's a plausible one.
- jmkni 2y ago
  You just have to find the right people - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yYCz06bS380 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yYCz06bS380
- TuringTourist 2y ago
  People you don't know are boring. Most people are full of surprises, unique insights, traits, and perspectives, if given enough time in the right setting. An increasing rarity at this point.
- AznHisoka 2y ago
  “In groups, they are terrible. As individuals, you can see the universe in them”
- tarboreus 2y ago
  Misanthropes are boring.
hansonkd 2y ago
> It's free Free in terms of monetary costs but not free in terms of absolute costs for example time and emotional depletion. For some people they see social connections as more risks that they can possibly lose something and be hurt if things don't work out or they are rejected. And in general social connections require some type of mutual benefit so it is necessary to "give" as you "get". Then another layer are that social connections in general need a reason. Is it a club, hobby, job, etc. which takes time and energy. These "costs" are not universal and vary from person to person. All these things can be overcome, but it is also important to look at the other side because the reason that people prefer just buying a pill to fix their problems is that the above mentioned costs for them are greater than the price of alternatives like medication, social media, gaming, etc.
- bubblic 2y ago
  True that. Especially if you layer the fact that people are less used to socializing so the very act of it becomes emotionally taxing
- more_corn 2y ago
  Surely there have been relationships in your life that were net positive? Was your mother caring and loving when you were young? Did you ever have a best friend? Ever been in love? The easiest way to have a positive relationship is to just be the good friend you’d want for yourself. The thoughtful lover you’d want to be with, the sort of sibling you wish you had. Doing these things costs you nothing. You might even find some positive emotions when you do them.
drivingmenuts 2y ago
If you gave me that spiel, I would assume you were trying to scam me.

hccb 2y ago

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recursive 2y ago
Some of them? Or all of them? Are you boring?
- OnlineGladiator 2y ago
  It's possible for people to like you without you liking them back. It's not the most likely explanation, but it's a plausible one.
jmkni 2y ago
You just have to find the right people - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yYCz06bS380 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yYCz06bS380
TuringTourist 2y ago
People you don't know are boring. Most people are full of surprises, unique insights, traits, and perspectives, if given enough time in the right setting. An increasing rarity at this point.
AznHisoka 2y ago
“In groups, they are terrible. As individuals, you can see the universe in them”
tarboreus 2y ago
Misanthropes are boring.

hansonkd 2y ago

> It's free Free in terms of monetary costs but not free in terms of absolute costs for example time and emotional depletion. For some people they see social connections as more risks that they can possibly lose something and be hurt if things don't work out or they are rejected. And in general social connections require some type of mutual benefit so it is necessary to "give" as you "get". Then another layer are that social connections in general need a reason. Is it a club, hobby, job, etc. which takes time and energy. These "costs" are not universal and vary from person to person. All these things can be overcome, but it is also important to look at the other side because the reason that people prefer just buying a pill to fix their problems is that the above mentioned costs for them are greater than the price of alternatives like medication, social media, gaming, etc.

bubblic 2y ago
True that. Especially if you layer the fact that people are less used to socializing so the very act of it becomes emotionally taxing
more_corn 2y ago
Surely there have been relationships in your life that were net positive? Was your mother caring and loving when you were young? Did you ever have a best friend? Ever been in love? The easiest way to have a positive relationship is to just be the good friend you’d want for yourself. The thoughtful lover you’d want to be with, the sort of sibling you wish you had. Doing these things costs you nothing. You might even find some positive emotions when you do them.

drivingmenuts 2y ago

If you gave me that spiel, I would assume you were trying to scam me.