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I find this quite funny, I've worked with this author at a company and the stories of his behaviour to other coworkers there make my WTF collection. So to find
by that_guy_iain 2y ago
I find this quite funny, I've worked with this author at a company and the stories of his behaviour to other coworkers there make my WTF collection. So to find him talking about growing professional relationships either means he's made massive strides in his behaviour or it's a lot of nonsense.
This is the one I always tell people when I explain how WTF IT can be, I wasn't there for it, but it was retold with the author in the room laughing about it. A female coworker joined and on her first day he went up to her and said "You know you're a slut, right?" And there were tons of stories of him saying the craziest of shit.
That company had serious culture problems, from a CTO who would take his anger out on juniors, demand complete nonsense that made no technical sense, and a revolving door of employees who were leaving because of the CTO or Tejas.
Funny enough, in my personal opinion, Tejas was always well-meaning and rather friendly he just would say the weirdest of shit ever.
- tejaskumar_ 2y agoIain, nice to hear from you after all these years! I still say the weirdest shit ever, but now more in line with my value of honoring people above all else. I indeed, by the grace of God, have made massive strides in my behavior thanks to friends like Gabe Greenberg from G2i.co (where I worked some time ago) and others. I also talk about our shared company where we worked together and the toxic environment in this podcast: https://youtu.be/muS-wQP2lV4?si=XIVpuzc6TzsLUvpp&t=852 https://youtu.be/muS-wQP2lV4?si=XIVpuzc6TzsLUvpp&t=852 if you're interested to catch up a bit.
- trogdor 2y agoYour response to Iain suggests that his account of your interaction with a new female colleague (“You know you're a slut, right?") is generally accurate. Do you really think of that as “saying the weirdest shit ever”? Most people I know would call it overt sexual harassment. I’m struggling to understand how you could have thought that was acceptable conduct. What am I missing?
- anthonyc 2y agoI hate to pile on, but I listened to the podcast OP linked above. It doesn't make the situation sound any better. It is worse, actually. OP is tone deaf going on this podcast talking about the toxic, racist, misogynistic culture with seemingly no awareness of his contribution to it.
- that_guy_iain 2y agoI think his experience of racism and "shitboy" may have desensitised him to the whole thing. He was there for years before I joined and honestly, it was meant to be better then and had a bunch of work on the culture but it was still pretty shitty. I remember once I semi-joked "You guys talk about a culture problem in IT, it sounds like you have a Tejas problem" and he generally looked like he felt bad about it.
- tejaskumar_ 2y agoI did feel bad about it. I'm glad you said that, and I'm thankful for how it made me feel. It is exactly that feeling that continued to inspire growth and change. No doubt, I feel it again as people continue to pile on here. This is really good, because it will inspire even more growth, and more positive change.
- trogdor 2y agoI have to say, I like your attitude now. At least the way it comes across here.
- tejaskumar_ 2y agoThanks! I'm doing my best.
- tejaskumar_ 2y agoThank you for this callout. I will re-listen, reflect, and grow from this. I will be better.
- mung_daal 2y agoeveryone knows your game too bad it is a competition and your pitch is weak
- askafriend 2y ago> A female coworker joined and on her first day he went up to her and said "You know you're a slut, right?" Insane behavior. I'd have to think there's an underlying medical/mental condition here.
- tejaskumar_ 2y agoWhile I wouldn't put it past myself to have done something like that as a young fool, please do keep in mind the author of the comment didn't even see this happen. And yes, there are plenty medical and mental conditions there that I've spoken about at length, for example in https://www.youtube.com/live/B8e1r2L7iq8?si=pLccCEZ4nfABcs8z&t=1797 https://www.youtube.com/live/B8e1r2L7iq8?si=pLccCEZ4nfABcs8z...
- throwaway134543 2y agoTo clarify: you're saying the author (Tejas) himself walked up to a woman on her first day and called her a slut?
- tejaskumar_ 2y agoFor what it's worth, I don't remember doing this but it's also not impossible given I was fairly foolish earlier in my career.