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Honestly, that's not the main feedback I get. They just don't like the low status associated with tech workers. They assume everyone in tech is a dweeb and ever

Honestly, that's not the main feedback I get. They just don't like the low status associated with tech workers. They assume everyone in tech is a dweeb and everyone is very concerned with being around people they think are cool and importantly that others think are cool. I don't think the anger/fear thing is really much of an issue. If that was the case, all these finance bros would be getting hanged.

JohnFen 2y ago
Ahh, then we're talking about different things entirely. I've never encountered an issue about social status, personally, so have no useful comments on that aspect, aside from guessing this is a problem with certain regional cultures or subcultures.
solardev 2y ago
Do you have to hang around those people...? As far as I can tell, none of my friends or even acquaintances have ever judged me for "status", low or high. Or maybe they have without me knowing, but then they self-select out of my friend group anyway so it works out...? There are certainly people, orgs, social circles, etc. who don't care about your social status, income level, or any of that nonsense. They can be interest-based (some activity), values-based, cultural/subcultural, whatever. > everyone is very concerned with being around people they think are cool and importantly that others think are cool. Among adults, this really shouldn't be a thing after high school... Nobody is "cool" to everyone. People gather with people they like, doing things they enjoy together. It's not about trying to be cool and impressing the people who look down on you. Fuck them. Just find your own people around whom you can be yourself, they can be themselves, and everyone laughs and has a good time together. Then all the class differences and such melt away and you just learn to treasure each other as people, not as spreadsheet rows. Maybe finance bros just aren't your crowd. Who cares? Don't mingle with them and find people less judgmental and more interested in the same things you are.

JohnFen 2y ago

Ahh, then we're talking about different things entirely. I've never encountered an issue about social status, personally, so have no useful comments on that aspect, aside from guessing this is a problem with certain regional cultures or subcultures.

solardev 2y ago

Do you have to hang around those people...? As far as I can tell, none of my friends or even acquaintances have ever judged me for "status", low or high. Or maybe they have without me knowing, but then they self-select out of my friend group anyway so it works out...? There are certainly people, orgs, social circles, etc. who don't care about your social status, income level, or any of that nonsense. They can be interest-based (some activity), values-based, cultural/subcultural, whatever. > everyone is very concerned with being around people they think are cool and importantly that others think are cool. Among adults, this really shouldn't be a thing after high school... Nobody is "cool" to everyone. People gather with people they like, doing things they enjoy together. It's not about trying to be cool and impressing the people who look down on you. Fuck them. Just find your own people around whom you can be yourself, they can be themselves, and everyone laughs and has a good time together. Then all the class differences and such melt away and you just learn to treasure each other as people, not as spreadsheet rows. Maybe finance bros just aren't your crowd. Who cares? Don't mingle with them and find people less judgmental and more interested in the same things you are.