That's not how you define either of those things. Granted, software engineering is a pretty ill-defined term, but I'm pretty sure most would agree that agile p

That's not how you define either of those things. Granted, software engineering is a pretty ill-defined term, but I'm pretty sure most would agree that agile project management is not software engineering. "Being able to be picky about what to learn" being programming is also a really confusing idea. Programming is writing programs, it's not some learning philosophy, and it's certainly not some liberated opposite to software engineering. I guess you're confusing having a job with software engineering, and spare time coding with programming.